Comments on: Unexpected Meetings: The Other Biological Parent http://birthparents.adoptionblogs.com/weblogs/unexpected-meetings-the-other-biological A blog for and about parents who have placed a child for adoption. Tue, 02 Feb 2010 22:23:05 -0700 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.8.4 hourly 1 By: hollins http://birthparents.adoptionblogs.com/weblogs/unexpected-meetings-the-other-biological/comment-page-1#comment-2134 hollins Tue, 12 Aug 2008 03:33:58 +0000 http://birth-first.www.adoptionblogs.com/2008/07/30/unexpected-meetings-the-other-biological#comment-2134 I don't know how to post a blog, Can you or any assist me in a letter as such points in letter for step parent adoption<br /> <br /> Do whats in best interest of child<br /> Daughter has asked for my last name<br /> I am family oriented and provider to her<br /> The sentiment of her calling me daddy<br /> I have honest intentions<br /> I pay her insurance, medical, dental, and vision<br /> I am interesting in adopting <br /> My family has invested interest and mutual likewise<br /> <br /> <br /> No child support next 9+ years remaining<br /> No arrearage,suspended license due to child support or warrant issued leading to incarceration <br /> Debt removed from credit report<br /> Emotions have interfered with judgment<br /> I will pursue through courts and attorney to adopt or press issue of support order<br /> Haven't shown the ability or willingness to pay (deadbeat)<br /> No consistency in her life in entire 9 years <br /> <br /> <br /> Can you please help me word this in a letter to send to biological father of step daugh I don’t know how to post a blog, Can you or any assist me in a letter as such points in letter for step parent adoption

Do whats in best interest of child
Daughter has asked for my last name
I am family oriented and provider to her
The sentiment of her calling me daddy
I have honest intentions
I pay her insurance, medical, dental, and vision
I am interesting in adopting
My family has invested interest and mutual likewise

No child support next 9+ years remaining
No arrearage,suspended license due to child support or warrant issued leading to incarceration
Debt removed from credit report
Emotions have interfered with judgment
I will pursue through courts and attorney to adopt or press issue of support order
Haven’t shown the ability or willingness to pay (deadbeat)
No consistency in her life in entire 9 years

Can you please help me word this in a letter to send to biological father of step daugh

]]> By: Brandy http://birthparents.adoptionblogs.com/weblogs/unexpected-meetings-the-other-biological/comment-page-1#comment-2133 Brandy Wed, 30 Jul 2008 21:50:38 +0000 http://birth-first.www.adoptionblogs.com/2008/07/30/unexpected-meetings-the-other-biological#comment-2133 My ex and I didn't part amicably. We stayed together for about two years after the birth of our son and I finally said enough is enough, of course that was for TONS of reasons, not all adoption related. I haven't seen him physically since the day I moved out, but I have had about ten million phone conversations with him because he hacked my email and got my phone number.<br /> <br /> I eventually just got to the point that I would say, I don't have time to talk now, and I would appreciate it if you didn't call me again. It finally ended after I called his mother and father and asked them to ask him to leave me alone. I know, pretty sad, but that was what my therapist suggested. <br /> <br /> Sometimes there just isn't a good answer, but self preservation is the most important thing. At this point, I can talk to his parents, but I can't to him, for alot of reasons. If I saw him, I would keep walking, I don't care if it does hurt his feelings, mine are more important to me. My ex and I didn’t part amicably. We stayed together for about two years after the birth of our son and I finally said enough is enough, of course that was for TONS of reasons, not all adoption related. I haven’t seen him physically since the day I moved out, but I have had about ten million phone conversations with him because he hacked my email and got my phone number.

I eventually just got to the point that I would say, I don’t have time to talk now, and I would appreciate it if you didn’t call me again. It finally ended after I called his mother and father and asked them to ask him to leave me alone. I know, pretty sad, but that was what my therapist suggested.

Sometimes there just isn’t a good answer, but self preservation is the most important thing. At this point, I can talk to his parents, but I can’t to him, for alot of reasons. If I saw him, I would keep walking, I don’t care if it does hurt his feelings, mine are more important to me.

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