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As the ability to either stop or fast-forward time has not yet been created, Sunday continues to loom closer and closer. Mother’s Day will arrive, just like every year prior. While I provided a list of ideas to get through the day, I said it wasn’t an exhaustive list. With that, another idea came to mind today.
For me, knowing that I am not alone is paramount in getting through those tough moments. While readers can visit our blog or others on the net, I was trying to think of something a bit different in connecting birth mothers with others who have felt the sting of grief and loss that can be exacerbated by this holiday. Then I remembered a great resource that adoption.com has on hand: poetry.
There are hundreds of poems about adoption written by various members of the adoption triad. In keeping with my idea of reminding birth mothers that they are not alone in their thoughts, emotions or experiences, I looked up poetry written by birth mothers.
The category of “By Birth Parents & Families” has a slew of poems written by birth mothers, fathers, grandparents and extended family members about adoption, about their placed child, about the adoptive family and about those feelings of grief, loss and, at times, ambivalence. Reading through the sometimes positive and sometimes heart-wrenching words of others can sometimes bring me to a point where I can say, “Yes, I have felt that, just like this author. I am not alone.”
I encourage you, especially if you are feeling alone this year, to take some time and click through the extensive collection of poetry. (Feel free to branch out to poems written by adoptees and adoptive parents.) Much like with any form of art, reaction to poetry is often subjective so you may not like all of them. You may not relate to all of them. But there may be one that speaks to you, deeply, and reminds you that you are never alone: not on Mother’s Day, not on any day.
Adoption.com Poetry. | Photo Credit.
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For more holiday survival discussion, read:
2. One Mother’s Experience with the Dreaded Holiday.
3. Or participate in a discussion on the forums: Honoring Our Motherhood.
