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Just when I think I have heard everything, I hear someone make a comment that totally floors me. This remark was made to the wife of one my husband’s co-workers who is currently pregnant with twins. Recently she was out in public somewhere and a woman commented on the enormity of her pregnant stomach. She explained that she was expecting twins.
Hmmm, there are any number of ways that you could be terribly insensitive and respond to that news, right? I believe that this woman outdid herself. What do you suppose that she said? How about, “My goodness, I hope so, you are huge.” Nah, that would have been insensitive, but not terribly unusual.
When my husband told me what this woman said to this pregnant woman with twins, my mouth fell open and I was stunned. Did I mention that this woman had her 11-year old daughter with her? Keep that in mind. What else could the lady have said? How about asking her if she was expecting twins because she conceived through in vitro? Remember this woman was a total stranger, how would the way that this woman’s twins were conceived even remotely been her business? No, that was not what she said either. As an aside, no in vitro was involved.
Use your imagination, what is the most insensitive remark that you can possibly imagine? Could she had chided her for adding to the world’s overpopulation with twins? Nope, that was not what she commented on it.
Let’s see, what other thoroughly uncalled for and rude comment could someone make to a very pregnant mom out shopping with her 11-year old daughter? I bet you could guess for the next twenty years and never come up with figuring out what the stranger said to the pregnant-with-twins mom.
Give up yet? Here’s what she said, “Oh my goodness, twins, are you keeping them both?” Huh? What does this remark say about the person who made it? I can think of alot of possibilities! None are nice enough to mention here.
OMG, People really have a lot of nerve!
That is ultra rude!
I hope that people do think that that kind of remark means the woman who said it must be an “adoptive” mom!
I say that because unfortunatly I have had two expectant moms (who knew I was an adoptive mom) tell me when I expressed my congratulations to them “Well we are not placing this baby for adoption!” As if my simply expressing my happiness for them and their baby to be somehow meant that I was hoping to snag the kid for my collection!
To me “Oh Congrats! What wonderful news!” does NOT equate to “Gimme your baby!”
Geezzz!
In case anyone was wondering these people were both family members of mine who were unmarried at the time they concieved, but in committed relationships with the fathers and married after the births of their children.
“To me “Oh Congrats! What wonderful news!” does NOT equate to “Gimme your baby!”
Deb, I agree with you on that point! I figure the person that made such a remark either had an adoption agency or in some way was connected to adoption. No one else would ever have that thought on their mind.
“No, I’m gonna let them fight it out and see which one lives. You know, survival of the fittest.” That’s what I would have said. Well, after I punched her.
Okay, so I would have done neither thing but they definitely would have crossed my mind. Stupid stupid stupid people. The nerve.
Someplace I have a greeting card with a cartoon picture of what’s obviously a business staff meeting, one man reaching into his suitcoat pocket for a gun and saying:
“_______, that was an incredibly stupid thing to say. I’m afraid I’m going to have to shoot you.”
Uh-huh. Kind of like that. Except that I don’t really advocate violence.
Keep them both?
Implying that she’d keep one and not the other? Or that it was her business.
It is quite rude!
If it happened to me, I’m afraid I’d have to laugh. It’s just SO far out there…what an odd woman it must have taken to have come up with a situation.