Sunday Secrets: No Longer True

I was reading through today’s Sunday Secrets over on the Post Secret blog and one really stuck out. Not initially. I read through all of them and kept coming back to the one. It really has nothing to do, specifically, with adoption.

My secret’s no longer true.

It really got me thinking.

If you had sent an adoption related secret in when Post Secret began (as an art project in 2004 and the website was launched in 2006), would your secret still be true? Can secrets change or un-secret-ify (totally a word, right?) themselves?

As an example, what if your secret was, “I totally don’t regret placing my child for adoption” or, to portray all sides here on the blog, the vice versa application of, “I totally regret placing my child for adoption.” And what if, my favorite game, in the past three to four years, something drastic has changed in your life. Whether that change is solely internal or based on an outside factor, something big has changed. And, suddenly, you do regret placing or you don’t regret placing. That’s a change in your secret, thus making the initially shared on no longer true, right?

However, the first thing that came to mind for me were the mothers who have kept their relinquished children secret for years upon years. They were told to by the agencies through which they placed at the time. Their parents told them to forget about the child. But, as we know, mothers rarely are able to magically erase any memory of pregnancy or birth. Even for those who have done a good job at moving on are faced with random thoughts of the child that they gave up for adoption. And so, what if that was the secret shared with the Post Secret viewing audience? What if the secret was along the lines of, “I gave up my baby and I have no idea what happened to him.”

But now they do through the miracle of reunion!

Okay, obviously, I’m getting far-fetched in my imagination over here. But, you have to admit, adoption is filled with secrets and if I’ve learned anything over the past five years of my association with the topic it is that secrets have a way of outing themselves. While that postcard likely had nothing to do with adoption, I can’t help but wonder.

What secrets of yours have changed in the past three to four years?

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