http://birthparents.adoptionblogs.com/weblogs/reunion-doubts A blog for and about parents who have placed a child for adoption. Tue, 17 Nov 2009 16:02:45 -0700 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.8.4 hourly 1 http://birthparents.adoptionblogs.com/weblogs/reunion-doubts/comment-page-1#comment-789 steviebear Sat, 10 May 2008 15:18:56 +0000 http://birth-first.www.adoptionblogs.com/2007/05/23/reunion-doubts#comment-789 Thank you for your article. I recently had a reunion with the son that I gave birth to in 1982. He has known since he was 6 that he was adopted.<br /> We recently met/reunion in December and I met him, his wife and their new daughter. <br /> I can not help but feel that things have changed since his babies birth, he seems more distant. <br /> We had been communicating via email and a couple of phone calls until that point of meeting.<br /> He made sure that he sent me a mother's day card from the first year we reunited by email. This year I received my first Grandma card with his signature on it.<br /> Please do not get me wrong, I treasure the fact that we got to meet at all, and am so very greatful for that.<br /> I just feel lost and alone. <br /> I know I signed away my rights when I placed him for adoption, it was never that I did not want him, but his birthfather beat me the last time that I saw him, when I was 6 months pregnant, and told me that when he was done that I would not be pregnant anymore. At the time the only way that I could be sure to keep him safe would be to sign away my rights, as that was the only way to terminate the birthfathers rights.<br /> I have run into the birthfather a few times since then and he continued to threaten me physically and emotionally.<br /> I am feeling very alone and lost right now. I do not know where my place is. It is like I have lost him all over again.<br /> I had a hard time saying so long at the end of our visit, I felt that I was saying goodbye again for forever, he said it was just see you later, real soon. But his communication has been almost non-existant, and I know he is busy but he has always been busy and still found a minute or two to email. Thank you for your article. I recently had a reunion with the son that I gave birth to in 1982. He has known since he was 6 that he was adopted.
We recently met/reunion in December and I met him, his wife and their new daughter.
I can not help but feel that things have changed since his babies birth, he seems more distant.
We had been communicating via email and a couple of phone calls until that point of meeting.
He made sure that he sent me a mother’s day card from the first year we reunited by email. This year I received my first Grandma card with his signature on it.
Please do not get me wrong, I treasure the fact that we got to meet at all, and am so very greatful for that.
I just feel lost and alone.
I know I signed away my rights when I placed him for adoption, it was never that I did not want him, but his birthfather beat me the last time that I saw him, when I was 6 months pregnant, and told me that when he was done that I would not be pregnant anymore. At the time the only way that I could be sure to keep him safe would be to sign away my rights, as that was the only way to terminate the birthfathers rights.
I have run into the birthfather a few times since then and he continued to threaten me physically and emotionally.
I am feeling very alone and lost right now. I do not know where my place is. It is like I have lost him all over again.
I had a hard time saying so long at the end of our visit, I felt that I was saying goodbye again for forever, he said it was just see you later, real soon. But his communication has been almost non-existant, and I know he is busy but he has always been busy and still found a minute or two to email.

]]> http://birthparents.adoptionblogs.com/weblogs/reunion-doubts/comment-page-1#comment-788 steviebear Sat, 10 May 2008 15:16:49 +0000 http://birth-first.www.adoptionblogs.com/2007/05/23/reunion-doubts#comment-788 Thank you for your article. I recently had a reunion with the son that I gave birth to in 1982. He has known since he was 6 that he was adopted.<br /> We recently met/reunion in December and I met him, his wife and their new daughter. <br /> I can not help but feel that things have changed since his babies birth, he seems more distant. <br /> We had been communicating via email and a couple of phone calls until that point of meeting.<br /> He made sure that he sent me a mother's day card from the first year we reunited by email. This year I received my first Grandma card with his signature on it.<br /> Please do not get me wrong, I treasure the fact that we got to meet at all, and am so very greatful for that.<br /> I just feel lost and alone. <br /> I know I signed away my rights when I placed him for adoption, it was never that I did not want him, but his birthfather beat me the last time that I saw him, when I was 6 months pregnant, and told me that when he was done that I would not be pregnant anymore. At the time the only way that I could be sure to keep him safe would be to sign away my rights, as that was the only way to terminate the birthfathers rights.<br /> I have run into the birthfather a few times since then and he continued to threaten me physically and emotionally.<br /> I am feeling very alone and lost right now. I do not know where my place is. It is like I have lost him all over again.<br /> I had a hard time saying so long at the end of our visit, I felt that I was saying goodbye again for forever, he said it was just see you later, real soon. But his communication has been almost non-existant, and I know he is busy but he has always been busy and still found a minute or two to email. Thank you for your article. I recently had a reunion with the son that I gave birth to in 1982. He has known since he was 6 that he was adopted.
We recently met/reunion in December and I met him, his wife and their new daughter.
I can not help but feel that things have changed since his babies birth, he seems more distant.
We had been communicating via email and a couple of phone calls until that point of meeting.
He made sure that he sent me a mother’s day card from the first year we reunited by email. This year I received my first Grandma card with his signature on it.
Please do not get me wrong, I treasure the fact that we got to meet at all, and am so very greatful for that.
I just feel lost and alone.
I know I signed away my rights when I placed him for adoption, it was never that I did not want him, but his birthfather beat me the last time that I saw him, when I was 6 months pregnant, and told me that when he was done that I would not be pregnant anymore. At the time the only way that I could be sure to keep him safe would be to sign away my rights, as that was the only way to terminate the birthfathers rights.
I have run into the birthfather a few times since then and he continued to threaten me physically and emotionally.
I am feeling very alone and lost right now. I do not know where my place is. It is like I have lost him all over again.
I had a hard time saying so long at the end of our visit, I felt that I was saying goodbye again for forever, he said it was just see you later, real soon. But his communication has been almost non-existant, and I know he is busy but he has always been busy and still found a minute or two to email.

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