By: jodilee0123

jodilee0123 — Mon, 14 Jan 2008 04:04:36 +0000

I think that if families were in contact more than the court agreement stated. . . nobody would really complain, would they? But, I guess if somebody wanted more contact then that would be a reason to ammend the agreement–I can’t help you there. I do believe that the contact agreement needs to be drawn up and presented at the finalization hearing. If it isn’t done then, I don’t think it can be done at a later time. We are in a non-legally binding open adoption now with our son’s birthmother and her family. We do have a contact agreement drawn up at the agency which kind of went out the window (in a very positive manner.) Meaning, our contact is pretty constant and way more than the agreement states (it helps that she and her family only live 10 minutes away)–I do wish she would email me more. . . but I’m sure our struggles with finding our places in the beginning of our journey kind of scared her and she doesn’t want to feel like she is intruding. Anyway. . . it states that visits will end once “it becomes confusing to the child”–ummmmmmmmmmmmm–that’s not going to happen–meaning visits won’t end–ever. I feel utterly embarrassed and completely stupid that that is even written in there. But, we really didn’t know. . . we were following the advice of our social worker. I now advocate the importance of the open relationship with birth families with prospective adoptive parents. Thanks for all your information on here! What a great resource for everyone!!

Comments on: Post-Adoption Contact Agreements: Minnesota

By: jodilee0123