http://birthparents.adoptionblogs.com/weblogs/parenting-after-placement-dealing-with-n A blog for and about parents who have placed a child for adoption. Tue, 17 Nov 2009 16:02:45 -0700 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.8.4 hourly 1 http://birthparents.adoptionblogs.com/weblogs/parenting-after-placement-dealing-with-n/comment-page-1#comment-1942 KatjaMichelle Mon, 12 Feb 2007 19:43:23 +0000 http://birth-first.www.adoptionblogs.com/2007/02/12/parenting-after-placement-dealing-with-n#comment-1942 While I am not parenting a child the part about grandparents really got me. About a year after placement my mother-who had pushed abortion and then adoption but NEVER parenting- was invited to a baby shower for a co-worker she then pulled out a box full of baby clothes and asked me to pick which ones to give to her co-worker. Turns out she thought I would decide to parent M and bought outfits everytime she passed a baby section in the store. Then in 2005 my babysister got pregnant at 17 (I guess she takes after her big sister) and what do ya know parenting was the only option discussed even though she did not have even a part time job or a high school diploma (both of which I had at the time I gave birth) I spend my time going between being angry at mom for not voicing her support so I could have parented and being happy that my loss and their loss of their first grandchild made it so my niece got to stay with my sister. While I am not parenting a child the part about grandparents really got me. About a year after placement my mother-who had pushed abortion and then adoption but NEVER parenting- was invited to a baby shower for a co-worker she then pulled out a box full of baby clothes and asked me to pick which ones to give to her co-worker. Turns out she thought I would decide to parent M and bought outfits everytime she passed a baby section in the store. Then in 2005 my babysister got pregnant at 17 (I guess she takes after her big sister) and what do ya know parenting was the only option discussed even though she did not have even a part time job or a high school diploma (both of which I had at the time I gave birth) I spend my time going between being angry at mom for not voicing her support so I could have parented and being happy that my loss and their loss of their first grandchild made it so my niece got to stay with my sister.

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