Comments on: Pain du Chocolat – Nature v. Nurture

By: Chance

Chance — Fri, 12 Jan 2007 06:27:17 +0000

I often get comments like that to regarding my sons b.mom. They will say how much he is like me or my husband, but when I try to explain something that he might have gotten from his mom they tell me I’m crazy. That I installed it into him. I disagree. I don’t think it’s an either or, but more as both. There has to be a happy medium somewhere.

By: Jan Baker

Jan Baker — Fri, 12 Jan 2007 05:13:03 +0000

Thanks Coley, I began right away to notice our similar interests, etc. The more I know him; the more I see how much we are alike.

By: Coley S.

Coley S. — Fri, 12 Jan 2007 03:22:30 +0000

I like this post Jan!! I will be interested to see the influences nature will have in my Charlie’s life.

By: Jan Baker

Jan Baker — Fri, 12 Jan 2007 02:15:06 +0000

Judy,

That is an interesting point that it is ingrained that families share characteristics whether adoptive or biological - they probably do to a certain degree. The son that I raised is very little like me - the one that I didn't is.

I think nurture plays a big part too - adopted children benefit from both families.

By: JudyK

JudyK — Fri, 12 Jan 2007 01:29:01 +0000

Of course nature has a big impact on the person we become. I believe research has proven that in recent years.

Now, some people will talk about some characteristics of our son’s and if I say that he’s been like that since we got him and we really have nothing to do with them, they’ll argue the point. I honestly don’t think they’re trying to be disrespectful to the birthfamily, but it’s so ingrained that families share characteristics so therefore, members of a family must be alike in some ways, no matter how they came together. In some strange, weird way, I think they’re simply trying to compliment the family before them. But I do understand how that smacks of negating the first family.