Comments on: Overwhelmed by Adoption Loss? http://birthparents.adoptionblogs.com/weblogs/overwhelmed-by-adoption-loss A blog for and about parents who have placed a child for adoption. Tue, 02 Feb 2010 22:23:05 -0700 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.8.4 hourly 1 By: Jenna Hatfield http://birthparents.adoptionblogs.com/weblogs/overwhelmed-by-adoption-loss/comment-page-1#comment-1115 Jenna Hatfield Wed, 18 Jul 2007 05:50:34 +0000 http://birth-first.www.adoptionblogs.com/2007/07/17/overwhelmed-by-adoption-loss#comment-1115 Terri; Art. Well, huh. My two "outlets," as it were, are writing (obviously) and music (voice). In my past endeavors in art (ala high school!), I found that I lose something from my brain to my hands. (I absolutely, 100% cannot draw. I used to cry in art class because I drew so poorly!) <br /> <br /> But I wonder... if something like this wouldn't be beneficial to me. And others.<br /> <br /> Thank you, Terri, for planting that seed in my head! :) What a great idea! Terri; Art. Well, huh. My two “outlets,” as it were, are writing (obviously) and music (voice). In my past endeavors in art (ala high school!), I found that I lose something from my brain to my hands. (I absolutely, 100% cannot draw. I used to cry in art class because I drew so poorly!)

But I wonder… if something like this wouldn’t be beneficial to me. And others.

Thank you, Terri, for planting that seed in my head! :) What a great idea!

]]> By: taramayrn http://birthparents.adoptionblogs.com/weblogs/overwhelmed-by-adoption-loss/comment-page-1#comment-1114 taramayrn Wed, 18 Jul 2007 05:00:48 +0000 http://birth-first.www.adoptionblogs.com/2007/07/17/overwhelmed-by-adoption-loss#comment-1114 Thanks Jenna. I wrote a blog post about it. My writing isn't as good as yours, but it's something.<br /> <br /> Sometimes I don't even let myself think of all the losses in my life from the adoption or how they have impacted my life. I have grieved and continue to grieve, but I worry that if I focus on the losses I will get "stuck", you know?<br /> <br /> I am not a "happy" birthmother and I'm not an "angry" birthmother, but it's hard sometimes to find an even balance between the two ends of the spectrum.<br /> Thanks Jenna. I wrote a blog post about it. My writing isn’t as good as yours, but it’s something.

Sometimes I don’t even let myself think of all the losses in my life from the adoption or how they have impacted my life. I have grieved and continue to grieve, but I worry that if I focus on the losses I will get “stuck”, you know?

I am not a “happy” birthmother and I’m not an “angry” birthmother, but it’s hard sometimes to find an even balance between the two ends of the spectrum.

]]> By: terri http://birthparents.adoptionblogs.com/weblogs/overwhelmed-by-adoption-loss/comment-page-1#comment-1113 terri Wed, 18 Jul 2007 03:09:20 +0000 http://birth-first.www.adoptionblogs.com/2007/07/17/overwhelmed-by-adoption-loss#comment-1113 To address the wordlessness of the experience, art has been life-saving for me. <br /> <br /> Art therapy is used with success in all trauma programs that I know of. There is just something about the physicality of using our hands/bodies in the act of creation, combined with visual imagery, that is healing.<br /> <br /> You don't have to be an "artist" or even consider yourself "creative" to do this. In fact, the more "primative" or "primal" this kind of work, the better.<br /> <br /> To address the wordlessness of the experience, art has been life-saving for me.

Art therapy is used with success in all trauma programs that I know of. There is just something about the physicality of using our hands/bodies in the act of creation, combined with visual imagery, that is healing.

You don’t have to be an “artist” or even consider yourself “creative” to do this. In fact, the more “primative” or “primal” this kind of work, the better.

]]> By: Jan Baker http://birthparents.adoptionblogs.com/weblogs/overwhelmed-by-adoption-loss/comment-page-1#comment-1112 Jan Baker Wed, 18 Jul 2007 02:18:41 +0000 http://birth-first.www.adoptionblogs.com/2007/07/17/overwhelmed-by-adoption-loss#comment-1112 As many times as I have tried to describe how the loss feels, words are inadequate to describe the breadth and depth of it all. <br /> <br /> As many times as I have tried to describe how the loss feels, words are inadequate to describe the breadth and depth of it all.

]]> By: Jenna Hatfield http://birthparents.adoptionblogs.com/weblogs/overwhelmed-by-adoption-loss/comment-page-1#comment-1111 Jenna Hatfield Wed, 18 Jul 2007 00:58:22 +0000 http://birth-first.www.adoptionblogs.com/2007/07/17/overwhelmed-by-adoption-loss#comment-1111 "Is it normal?" Oh, Tara, I think it fits <strong>well</strong> within the range of "normal," especially considering that the range is so very wide. I'm always here if you need to talk. “Is it normal?” Oh, Tara, I think it fits well within the range of “normal,” especially considering that the range is so very wide. I’m always here if you need to talk.

]]> By: taramayrn http://birthparents.adoptionblogs.com/weblogs/overwhelmed-by-adoption-loss/comment-page-1#comment-1110 taramayrn Wed, 18 Jul 2007 00:48:11 +0000 http://birth-first.www.adoptionblogs.com/2007/07/17/overwhelmed-by-adoption-loss#comment-1110 Is it normal that most days I can't even begin to put words to or verbalize the loss in my life from the adoption of my son?<br /> Is it normal that most days I can’t even begin to put words to or verbalize the loss in my life from the adoption of my son?

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