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I’ve previously talked about my own adoption resolutions for this New Year. I’m still determined to bring these things to fruition. However, on the forums, a thread was started about birth parents’ wishes for their children. And I thought it was a unique and heart-warming discussion.
My adoption related goals for the year are my own. I am personally responsible for sending those letters, helping to plan those visits and scheduling a portrait shoot. Those are the things that I want to do, for me and for my placed daughter. They’re on my plate.
And yet, it’s true, I want so much more for the Munchkin.
Like the other mothers that replied to the thread, I wish for her to have an amazing year. She’ll have a big birthday at the end of this year, one that makes me feel rather old, and I hope the whole year gearing up to that celebration brings her something to celebrate each day. My wishes include continued fun in dance and karate as well. (With a selfish wish of getting to witness one or the other during a visit.) I hope she continues to learn great things each day. And, really, I just wish for her to continue being herself; her personality is so amazing, so fabulous, that I couldn’t wish anything else on her!
One incredibly heart-warming wish needs to be shared with the blog-reading public that might not otherwise have read such a thread. One birth mother wrote:
… she doesn’t have to get tubes, she gets that birthmark removed with no complications, that she stays as happy and sweet as she has been these first eight months, that her parents fall more in love with her every day, that she makes a royal mess of her first birthday cake, that she’ll be hard to keep up with once she learns to walk, that she smiles and laughs every day.
Those are my wishes for our sweet, sweet girl.
Those things sound so motherly, so full of that maternal love, don’t they? Who wants their child to go through the pain of tubes? What mother doesn’t want their child to have a lack of complication during a medical procedure? What mom doesn’t want her kids to be happy? What mother doesn’t want her child to be loved? Those wishes just contain such a beautiful sentiment that I couldn’t help but share them… and then ask…
As a birth parent, what are your wishes for your child this year? Especially if you didn’t participate on the forum discussion, but even if you did, I’d love to hear what other birth parents are hoping for their placed children in 2008. Many things will differ, of course, as relationships vary from family to family. I think it’s great to talk about and share those beautiful differences! So feel free to tell us what you’re wishing for your child as this new year begins!
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For more, read:
1. My Adoption Related Resolution.
2. The forum discussion: Wishes for your child as 2008 is upon us.
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Photo Credit: Owais Kahn.
