That is a great idea to have someone neutral set up a schedule. If I don’t hear from Birth mom, I usually don’t call. I’ve always put it in her court to call me. It seemed that if she wanted to know what was happening, she’d call, and she does! We talk about once per week except for a few times when she has missed calling for a week or two.

I’ll only call her if I know ahead I can’t get together, like if my week is busy or I’m on vacation.

Its eye opening reading the posts from ‘the other side’.
Thanks
I never thought about her expecting ME to call HER. hummm…