Comments on: National Adoption Month Makes Me Pout Every Year

By: rsm2004

rsm2004 — Thu, 01 Nov 2007 17:35:51 +0000

I see what you are saying Jenna, and all of the other respondents.You have a very valid point, but no one in the current administration will hear you…
Just look at the kind of administration Bush heads: Anti-abortion and Pro-life yes…but they don’t give a flying you-know- what , once a woman has her baby, does not know how to make ends meet and has to struggle with in a birthparent’s case a most heart wrenching decision.The current administration’s party line is to condemn abortion ( I am not saying that abortion is the solution!! Please don’t get me wrong– I’m trying to illustrate a point)and they feel it is their moral obligation to safeguard the live of any unborn children in general by legally trying to impede a woman’s CHOICE about what to do with the life growing inside of HER.
But when it comes to taking care of and validating these mothers who either decided to raise their children or to carry their babies and than find a different home for them : they do not care nearly as much….
I’m an adoptive parent and I love my child, but I’m not some sort of hero for adopting! Adoption in the most cynical way is the solution to three very infortunte problems. Birthparents who need to find a family for their child, adoptive parents who in many cases(not all–there are always exceptions) will not be able to have a family if not for adoption and a child who has no voice in the process what-so-ever but is the focal point of it all,and who’s health,happiness and sanity we all have to saveguard.
It all comes down to economic and politics. There is no reason why in this affluent, prosperous country there are upwards of 10 million children who live in abject poverty, there are upwards of 46 million people without health insurance and there are so many birthparents forces by their economic and social conditions to find alternate solutions for the children they give life to.

Ok…I’ll get of my high horse now!
Good luck..I feel for you.
Daniella

By: Ruth Windsor

Ruth Windsor — Thu, 18 Jan 2007 21:20:28 +0000

I’m picking up JudyK’s point…if birthmoms didn’t give birth, in many cases there would be no adoption to celebrate.

By: MommyLis2001

MommyLis2001 — Thu, 02 Nov 2006 03:13:12 +0000

Quite true. I’m sure most of it stems from ignorance. Good gravy…when I think of how many people I have offended (and continue to offend) just from my lack of perspective, it’s easy to see how this official statement (written by who knows who) was written as it was. Birthparents deserve acknowledgement and respect and *I* for one do all that I can do in my Happy Little World to communicate that.

By: JudyK

JudyK — Thu, 02 Nov 2006 01:07:29 +0000

Maybe if enough people appeal, or if a national organization or publication wrote AS an organization, would that help?

After all, adoption in most forms wouldn’t even be possible without firstparents. They really shouldn’t be ignored during an Adoption Awareness Month, for goodness sakes!

By: marymartha

marymartha — Wed, 01 Nov 2006 19:53:32 +0000

I sent an email after I read this. Adoption can be a wonderful thing but it would NEVER BE POSSIBLE if women didn’t make the most painful choice possible for the sake of their children. They deserve the most recogination out of the triad. They are the ones who gave the most, and suffered the most.

By: Jenna Hatfield

Jenna Hatfield — Wed, 01 Nov 2006 19:05:55 +0000

Coley; hugs to you today.

M; I sent a letter two years ago. Actually, I sent the same letter over and over for about two weeks two years ago. It did no good. But thanks for the support! I’ll just whine every year on the first day of November and hope that someone, someday, hears me.

Cyndi; Thanks for your words as well. We’re all members of this triad.

By: Cyndi

Cyndi — Wed, 01 Nov 2006 17:21:04 +0000

Hi Jenna,

Thank you for your post - I hope members of every part of the TRIAD read it and I hope we see the change happen in our lifetime - for everyone involved. I know my thinking has changed because of meeting and hearing all members of the TRIAD - we all need to be included - for the health and well-being of our children.

Big cyber-hug to you today.

Take care,
Cyndi

By: mxf0068

mxf0068 — Wed, 01 Nov 2006 16:37:29 +0000

If I'm out of line, please forgive me. Your post is an elequent and passionate plea for recognition. Why don't you send it to Pres. Bush. You have a way with words that so pervasive. You express your feelings without alienating people with vehemence. Perhaps after hearing from you, someone will realise the need to recognize birthparents everywhere. You have the ability to affect a change of attitude in your audience. Maybe you can just expand your audience.

anyway my two cents
-M

By: Coley S.

Coley S. — Wed, 01 Nov 2006 16:24:25 +0000

I totally feel ya on that one!