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Welcome to November! While some crazy folk are attempting to write an entire (50,000 word) novel this month, there are other crazy folk who are going to attempt writing (at least) one blog post, per day, all month. That’s right! It’s time for NaBloPoMo! National Blog Posting Month for those not on the up and up with crazy abbreviations. That includes weekends. And holidays. (Thanksgiving much?!) And birthdays. (Nick turns two!) And, you know, the possible birth of one bouncing baby boy!
Should I reiterate the part about crazy folk?
In order to better prepare for the craziness that is NaBloPoMo, I came up with a game plan. Will I stick with the game plan all month. I don’t know. Games are unpredictable! We’ll see how it goes! Oh, what’s the game plan?
I’ll be looking, in depth, at the state statutes regarding Post-Adoption Contact Agreements (generally referred to as contracts). I will be looking, individually, at each state’s statute wording and providing commentary on what’s good and not-so-good about each state’s view on the topic. Of course, not every state even provides a discourse on the topic and, as such, those states will be lumped together later on. Once we run out of states that provide specific wording on the subject (which we do as only 22 states provide their citizens with law on the topic), I’ll be talking about specific issues that can come up regarding post-adoption contact, contract issues, how to create a contract, what to avoid and how to broach the subject even after your paternal rights have been terminated.
The last point brings up the question of why I’m addressing this issue on a blog that is mostly for mothers and fathers who have already placed. Shouldn’t these parents already have such knowledge? The sad thing is that, no, most don’t already have this knowledge. Especially for mothers and fathers in open adoption, this information could come in handy as they maneuver their way through post-placement issues concerning contact and relationships. It should be stated, here and now, that I’m not a lawyer. If you have a specific question regarding your adoption, you should contact a professional. I’m just here to provide a dialogue on the subject in hopes of getting others to recognize their rights and the problems that exist with the way the system currently stands.
Of course, as per usual, I’ll be covering pertinent adoption news in the media as well as hitting some of my normal series (Creating Traditions, for example). So don’t think it’s a one-track-mind kind of month! It’s not!
If you have anything you would like to add over the month on this subject, please drop me an e-mail (jennah AT adoptionblogs DOT com) or feel free to leave a comment. There’s also a discussion on the forums in which parents on both sides of the adult triad have been sharing experiences. We’ll be talking about some of those later this month! Go join in!
I look forward to covering this topic. All. Month. Long!
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For more, read:
1. Do You Take This Birth Mother.
3. Thankful Series: Good Faith.
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