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I’ll just start out with a quote from the offending article.
Worse, you have to suck up to the birth mother. She can pick any adoptive parent she wants. “After years of dealing with birth mothers who decided to take [babies] back … watching poor families have to kiss these girls’ butts when they know they are using drugs and alcohol in the pregnancy,” Ryan says she began looking for ways to give clients more power over child acquisition. “It was a control thing for me,” she explains.
Pardon me while I bang my head off of a desk.
The article, found on Slate.com, features the owner of a new business who is making and selling human embryos from handpicked donors. Discussed last week in The Washington Post, the FDA found nothing wrong with the business.
I have no comment on the business of manufacturing embryos (which is, in essence, manufacturing children). I don’t know enough on the topic. All I know is this lady’s attitude in this article is enough to leave me feeling icky in general.
I find this topic of discussion akin to the abortion versus adoption debate. Apples and oranges. While abortion and adoption may, at the core, be topics to discuss regarding unplanned pregnancies, that is where the similarities end. Similarly, issues regarding IVF/embryo adoption/etc and adoption may be based in infertility but, again, that’s where the correlation tends to end. Women, like this business owner, that want to speak for the entire adoptive parent side of the triad do no one any good service.
Instead of focusing on how birthparents are inherently drug addicted evil people, simply discuss the nature of your business. Explain the pro’s of the service you are offering. You could sell this idea to many different groups of (wealthy) people without having to bring in a smear campaign on birthparents. It wasn’t necessary. It wasn’t needed. It’s certainly not welcome.
And it’s another example of the continuous negative stereotype of birthparents as portrayed by the media of which I’ve grown tired.
Sounds to me that she was already in the mindset of manufacturing babies before she crossed over into this new business venture. Her goal was to make babies for people … not find homes for babies.
This process will still create little humans … little humans that will have the desire to know their history … to wonder if the secrecy means that there is something “bad” about their birth family …. so is there something “bad” about them? And if they start searching one day and begin to ask this woman some questions … what will those answers be?
Can you hear me screaming???
Christine; I hear you. However, I think even if you were screaming in this lady’s ear… she just wouldn’t catch on. Keep screaming, please.
Oh. My. God. This whole thing is horrifying in so many ways. Horrifying. I don’t even know where to begin.
“Child acquisition?” That phrase alone sickens me… the whole idea sickens me. I sad and horrified and watching… well, what’s next?
All I can think of is “what about these children?” Are there truly hopeful parents out there (and obviously there are or she wouldn’t be “in business”) that feel this is a healthy way to build a family? And why make it all about adoption and the mother’s right to choose how her child is parented. Good grief. That is false advertising at the very basic. I won’t say what I really feel it is at the core. I can’t put those kind of things in writing.
This sick woman is just playing on the fears of those seeking to adopt to help fuel her “business”. Its crazy!
I feel like for every one potential adoptive parent you can educate that birthparents are not monsters or whores, here this nut is going along behind creating more FEAR. Why? All because it can draw people into her business. Well I think if you are THAT afraid of adoption, you better be ten times more afraid of THIS, and PLEASE don’t do either.
Excuse me while I run to the bathroom, stomach churning at the moment.
Dr. Mengele would be proud…
of this…
All the donors are white, since the clients are white. Ryan is no bigot, but business is business. “There is simply a demand for white babies,” she shrugs. In fact, three-quarters of the DNA in her first two batches comes from blue-eyed blonds. This isn’t eugenics; it’s narcissism. “What I was really looking for was blond hair, blue eyes, so the child would look similar to me,” one of Ryan’s clients told ABC News.
“Batches”?
Next will she market a “kit” next to the easy-bake ovens at Wal-Mart?
Ugh!