Comments on: Marching for Life but Not Doing Anything to Uplift Said Lives http://birthparents.adoptionblogs.com/weblogs/marching-for-life-but-not-doing-anything A blog for and about parents who have placed a child for adoption. Tue, 17 Nov 2009 16:02:45 -0700 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.8.4 hourly 1 By: rosaryforlife http://birthparents.adoptionblogs.com/weblogs/marching-for-life-but-not-doing-anything/comment-page-1#comment-1547 rosaryforlife Thu, 22 Feb 2007 13:13:18 +0000 http://birth-first.www.adoptionblogs.com/2007/01/22/marching-for-life-but-not-doing-anything#comment-1547 AMEN to "Those holding signs of aborted fetuses would be better served by joining together with fellow pro-life believers in their local areas and brain-storming ideas on how to better support mothers and children. If you legitimately want to force every single woman who finds herself pregnant to bring every single baby into this world, you've got to have a better game plan than making it a constitutional amendment and attending rallies. You've got to start welcoming these women and children into your communities, your churches, your schools and your playgroups. You've got to stop pointing fingers and instead start offering your hand-me-downs, your experience for advice and support and an understanding shoulder to cry on when things seem to be overwhelming. And that's just the small stuff, folks. I'm not even talking about the facts on how state assistance is failing pregnant mothers and children all over our country."<br /> I attended one March for life with family when I was a teenager. It struck me as a good thing because people should be valued by our government. But saddly as you've noted, we aren't. That's why I believe it's better to do what you said...which by the way, that's behaving more like a pro-lifer in my opinion (helping others to raise their kids in any way..employment...food...clothes, etc.). That being said, I also value showing the grotesque pics of unborn babies to women and men who are faced with an unplanned preg. so they know what they are about to do and don't find out later and then experience years of depression or even suicide. <br /> I'm also a birthmother in an open adoption. Together, we can and will make a difference. It's not about what seperates us, it's about what brings us together. Sorry so long. AMEN to “Those holding signs of aborted fetuses would be better served by joining together with fellow pro-life believers in their local areas and brain-storming ideas on how to better support mothers and children. If you legitimately want to force every single woman who finds herself pregnant to bring every single baby into this world, you’ve got to have a better game plan than making it a constitutional amendment and attending rallies. You’ve got to start welcoming these women and children into your communities, your churches, your schools and your playgroups. You’ve got to stop pointing fingers and instead start offering your hand-me-downs, your experience for advice and support and an understanding shoulder to cry on when things seem to be overwhelming. And that’s just the small stuff, folks. I’m not even talking about the facts on how state assistance is failing pregnant mothers and children all over our country.”
I attended one March for life with family when I was a teenager. It struck me as a good thing because people should be valued by our government. But saddly as you’ve noted, we aren’t. That’s why I believe it’s better to do what you said…which by the way, that’s behaving more like a pro-lifer in my opinion (helping others to raise their kids in any way..employment…food…clothes, etc.). That being said, I also value showing the grotesque pics of unborn babies to women and men who are faced with an unplanned preg. so they know what they are about to do and don’t find out later and then experience years of depression or even suicide.
I’m also a birthmother in an open adoption. Together, we can and will make a difference. It’s not about what seperates us, it’s about what brings us together. Sorry so long.

]]> By: Jenna Hatfield http://birthparents.adoptionblogs.com/weblogs/marching-for-life-but-not-doing-anything/comment-page-1#comment-1546 Jenna Hatfield Tue, 23 Jan 2007 17:28:41 +0000 http://birth-first.www.adoptionblogs.com/2007/01/22/marching-for-life-but-not-doing-anything#comment-1546 Dandelions, did I say the whole pro-life movement? This post was criticizing the act of marching instead of doing something. Hence the lines like, "Those holding signs" and the subject itself. The subject doesn't say, "Pro-Life Sucks." It states, rather specifically, the absolute pointlessness of marches and roadside protests. But thank you for your ridicule. :) Dandelions, did I say the whole pro-life movement? This post was criticizing the act of marching instead of doing something. Hence the lines like, “Those holding signs” and the subject itself. The subject doesn’t say, “Pro-Life Sucks.” It states, rather specifically, the absolute pointlessness of marches and roadside protests. But thank you for your ridicule. :)

]]> By: dandelions123 http://birthparents.adoptionblogs.com/weblogs/marching-for-life-but-not-doing-anything/comment-page-1#comment-1545 dandelions123 Tue, 23 Jan 2007 17:02:16 +0000 http://birth-first.www.adoptionblogs.com/2007/01/22/marching-for-life-but-not-doing-anything#comment-1545 I am deeply offended that you characterize the entire pro-life movement as "Marching for Life but Not Doing Anything to Uplift Said Lives" based almost entirely on your own personal experience. Where is the research that you're normally so proud of doing? I am deeply offended that you characterize the entire pro-life movement as “Marching for Life but Not Doing Anything to Uplift Said Lives” based almost entirely on your own personal experience. Where is the research that you’re normally so proud of doing?

]]> By: AdrienneBashista http://birthparents.adoptionblogs.com/weblogs/marching-for-life-but-not-doing-anything/comment-page-1#comment-1544 AdrienneBashista Mon, 22 Jan 2007 21:58:01 +0000 http://birth-first.www.adoptionblogs.com/2007/01/22/marching-for-life-but-not-doing-anything#comment-1544 Jenna - this was a really great post. I think you have a really valuable perspective in the whole debate. Thanks for this - <br /> A Jenna – this was a really great post. I think you have a really valuable perspective in the whole debate. Thanks for this –
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]]> By: Jenna Hatfield http://birthparents.adoptionblogs.com/weblogs/marching-for-life-but-not-doing-anything/comment-page-1#comment-1543 Jenna Hatfield Mon, 22 Jan 2007 21:52:03 +0000 http://birth-first.www.adoptionblogs.com/2007/01/22/marching-for-life-but-not-doing-anything#comment-1543 Deb; very cool. I also donate to a local pregnancy center that doesn't promote adoption (though resources are available if a mother asks) but instead has a smorgasboard of clothes, wipes, diapers, formula, as well as staff who help them secure jobs and funding available to them. Glad to hear that you've found something likewise to donate to! :) Deb; very cool. I also donate to a local pregnancy center that doesn’t promote adoption (though resources are available if a mother asks) but instead has a smorgasboard of clothes, wipes, diapers, formula, as well as staff who help them secure jobs and funding available to them. Glad to hear that you’ve found something likewise to donate to! :)

]]> By: Deb Donatti http://birthparents.adoptionblogs.com/weblogs/marching-for-life-but-not-doing-anything/comment-page-1#comment-1542 Deb Donatti Mon, 22 Jan 2007 21:10:27 +0000 http://birth-first.www.adoptionblogs.com/2007/01/22/marching-for-life-but-not-doing-anything#comment-1542 The home my son's birthmother lived in during her pregnancy supports young moms in the KC area. They have a place to stay, counciling, food, clothing, job options. It is not an adoption agency. The only thing they ask is that a woman coming in is choosing life and not termination.<br /> MOST women who stay at this particular house choose to parent their child, occasionally they choose adoption as did our son's birthmother.<br /> When ever we return to the KC area we bring bibles, infant formula, baby & maternity clothing, toys, food & toiletries for the mother's pantry they run. The women earn points for completeing training, parenting classes, and assistance programs and can redeem the points for what they need at the pantry. They can live there for up to 2 years (with their children) after the birth of their baby. The home my son’s birthmother lived in during her pregnancy supports young moms in the KC area. They have a place to stay, counciling, food, clothing, job options. It is not an adoption agency. The only thing they ask is that a woman coming in is choosing life and not termination.
MOST women who stay at this particular house choose to parent their child, occasionally they choose adoption as did our son’s birthmother.
When ever we return to the KC area we bring bibles, infant formula, baby & maternity clothing, toys, food & toiletries for the mother’s pantry they run. The women earn points for completeing training, parenting classes, and assistance programs and can redeem the points for what they need at the pantry. They can live there for up to 2 years (with their children) after the birth of their baby.

]]> By: Heather Lowe http://birthparents.adoptionblogs.com/weblogs/marching-for-life-but-not-doing-anything/comment-page-1#comment-1541 Heather Lowe Mon, 22 Jan 2007 20:53:36 +0000 http://birth-first.www.adoptionblogs.com/2007/01/22/marching-for-life-but-not-doing-anything#comment-1541 Sign me up as another pro-choicer who chose life...for all the same reasons. Sign me up as another pro-choicer who chose life…for all the same reasons.

]]> By: Opalwench http://birthparents.adoptionblogs.com/weblogs/marching-for-life-but-not-doing-anything/comment-page-1#comment-1540 Opalwench Mon, 22 Jan 2007 17:07:40 +0000 http://birth-first.www.adoptionblogs.com/2007/01/22/marching-for-life-but-not-doing-anything#comment-1540 Totally in agreement about being pro-choice but choosing life.<br /> <br /> As for what I'm doing to help support... well right now I'm not doing anything, which makes me sad, 'cause gosh darn it I want to. I just haven't found a place to lend a hand yet. But I looking. Totally in agreement about being pro-choice but choosing life.

As for what I’m doing to help support… well right now I’m not doing anything, which makes me sad, ’cause gosh darn it I want to. I just haven’t found a place to lend a hand yet. But I looking.

]]> By: dawnfriedman http://birthparents.adoptionblogs.com/weblogs/marching-for-life-but-not-doing-anything/comment-page-1#comment-1539 dawnfriedman Mon, 22 Jan 2007 16:44:54 +0000 http://birth-first.www.adoptionblogs.com/2007/01/22/marching-for-life-but-not-doing-anything#comment-1539 Well, I'll tell you I'm not doing enough but I appreciate this entry A LOT!!! You rock, Jenna! Well, I’ll tell you I’m not doing enough but I appreciate this entry A LOT!!! You rock, Jenna!

]]> By: tanyajill http://birthparents.adoptionblogs.com/weblogs/marching-for-life-but-not-doing-anything/comment-page-1#comment-1538 tanyajill Mon, 22 Jan 2007 15:19:20 +0000 http://birth-first.www.adoptionblogs.com/2007/01/22/marching-for-life-but-not-doing-anything#comment-1538 Thanks for this post Jenna, as another pro-choice woman who chose life, you have described what I feel on a regular basis. Thanks for this post Jenna, as another pro-choice woman who chose life, you have described what I feel on a regular basis.

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