Love Thursday – Love and Staying in Touch

Love takes on many forms. It is much more than hearing the words, “I love you.” Sometimes in your life you may even meet people who mouth the words, but never seem to convince you that they really do love you by their actions. Then there are people who show their love for you with gestures, but have great difficulty saying the words. Most of us crave both.

One way to show someone that you care who is far away is by keeping in touch with them by e-mail, phone or regular mail. Both my sons lead busy lives. However, Chris, the son that I did not raise, is busier than anyone I know. At first I wondered about the frenetic pace of his life; then it dawned on me that I move at a similar pace. My husband even commented a while back that most people slow down as they get older, but not me.

Most people that I know are fairly busy, and it is often difficult to fit everything and everyone into your life when your life is full. When Chris and I were first reunited, his life seemed so overbooked already, I wondered if he would be able to find time for another mother, namely me.

There is a natural excitement and a hunger to know in the early stages of most reunions and then it is not too hard to stay in touch. After that initial stage, I believe that it becomes more difficult. To his credit, Chris has hung in there and made time for me in his life. I do not know if it is because he likes me in his life, or if he knows how important and how much I love hearing from him. Perhaps it is a bit of both?

Honestly, although I do not know for certain why he keeps in touch with me, I am infinitely grateful that he does. I know that it is not always easy. In fact, he’s called me from a trip to Las Vegas, sent me a postcard from Hawaii, called from his annual family vacation in Maine and recently sent me photos from his latest trip to Brazil.

Something in him keeps our relationship going. I would like to think that he cares about me. Whatever it is, I am thankful that it exists, he exists and that we now know each other. No more lies, secrecy or unanswered questions – I cannot begin to tell you how good that feels.

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