Comments on: I’m Not “Your” Birth Mother! http://birthparents.adoptionblogs.com/weblogs/i-m-not-your-birth-mother A blog for and about parents who have placed a child for adoption. Tue, 17 Nov 2009 16:02:45 -0700 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.8.4 hourly 1 By: AdoptionBlogs Editor http://birthparents.adoptionblogs.com/weblogs/i-m-not-your-birth-mother/comment-page-1#comment-1372 AdoptionBlogs Editor Tue, 28 Aug 2007 15:13:39 +0000 http://birth-first.www.adoptionblogs.com/2007/08/20/i-m-not-your-birth-mother#comment-1372 Nobody is going to bash you for that. You are entitled to have your own feelings and opinions and if you have a good relationship with your child's adoptive parents then more power to you! Nobody is going to bash you for that. You are entitled to have your own feelings and opinions and if you have a good relationship with your child’s adoptive parents then more power to you!

]]> By: edensbirthmomma http://birthparents.adoptionblogs.com/weblogs/i-m-not-your-birth-mother/comment-page-1#comment-1371 edensbirthmomma Tue, 28 Aug 2007 04:00:57 +0000 http://birth-first.www.adoptionblogs.com/2007/08/20/i-m-not-your-birth-mother#comment-1371 I'm the odd man out. In fact, on the 21st, I posted an email where Amanda had said "our birthmother" and I take no offense to that. Perhaps I'm uneducated or perhaps I'm not caught up in the titles of our relationship, but it didn't hurt my feelings. If I were really to get into it, I would feel less a part of our special family if they referred to me as just my daughter's birthmother. To me, our reflects the depth of our relationships. Feel free to start bashing me now...it's just my viewpoint; nothing more or less. I’m the odd man out. In fact, on the 21st, I posted an email where Amanda had said “our birthmother” and I take no offense to that. Perhaps I’m uneducated or perhaps I’m not caught up in the titles of our relationship, but it didn’t hurt my feelings. If I were really to get into it, I would feel less a part of our special family if they referred to me as just my daughter’s birthmother. To me, our reflects the depth of our relationships. Feel free to start bashing me now…it’s just my viewpoint; nothing more or less.

]]> By: AdoptionBlogs Editor http://birthparents.adoptionblogs.com/weblogs/i-m-not-your-birth-mother/comment-page-1#comment-1369 AdoptionBlogs Editor Thu, 23 Aug 2007 13:29:26 +0000 http://birth-first.www.adoptionblogs.com/2007/08/20/i-m-not-your-birth-mother#comment-1369 John, thank you for your comments but I believe our time is up.<br /> They no longer seem to add to the discussion more than they bash my blogger so I'll thank you to keep further comments to yourself. John, thank you for your comments but I believe our time is up.
They no longer seem to add to the discussion more than they bash my blogger so I’ll thank you to keep further comments to yourself.

]]> By: erin_d_a http://birthparents.adoptionblogs.com/weblogs/i-m-not-your-birth-mother/comment-page-1#comment-1370 erin_d_a Thu, 23 Aug 2007 13:23:25 +0000 http://birth-first.www.adoptionblogs.com/2007/08/20/i-m-not-your-birth-mother#comment-1370 John obviously you don't like Jenna, or her writing, or her passion about reform in adoption as well as the ongoing relationships within families. You have a very black and white attitude toward adoption, and refuse to grow or see things in a different light.<br /> <br /> So at this point it is obvious that you are just trying to harass Jenna and put her down on a regular basis. It is disgusting to see someone get such joy from putting someone else down regularly. John obviously you don’t like Jenna, or her writing, or her passion about reform in adoption as well as the ongoing relationships within families. You have a very black and white attitude toward adoption, and refuse to grow or see things in a different light.

So at this point it is obvious that you are just trying to harass Jenna and put her down on a regular basis. It is disgusting to see someone get such joy from putting someone else down regularly.

]]> By: mariah http://birthparents.adoptionblogs.com/weblogs/i-m-not-your-birth-mother/comment-page-1#comment-1368 mariah Wed, 22 Aug 2007 22:54:05 +0000 http://birth-first.www.adoptionblogs.com/2007/08/20/i-m-not-your-birth-mother#comment-1368 Saying 'our' birthmother, the way I refer to 'our' accountant, or 'our' organizer, does make it seem as if that relegates our child's birthmother to the status of employee or someone who provides a service for pay. Not good. I'm glad I remember not to say it, though I did slip a few times in the early years. Saying ‘our’ birthmother, the way I refer to ‘our’ accountant, or ‘our’ organizer, does make it seem as if that relegates our child’s birthmother to the status of employee or someone who provides a service for pay. Not good. I’m glad I remember not to say it, though I did slip a few times in the early years.

]]> By: mommy24 http://birthparents.adoptionblogs.com/weblogs/i-m-not-your-birth-mother/comment-page-1#comment-1367 mommy24 Wed, 22 Aug 2007 05:23:31 +0000 http://birth-first.www.adoptionblogs.com/2007/08/20/i-m-not-your-birth-mother#comment-1367 Jenna~ great post! <br /> <br /> John~ Have you nothing better to do than come here and pick apart everything Jenna is saying and doing? It is obvious that you enjoy debate, maybe you should call up our politicians and leave Jenna alone to do what she does very well! Jenna~ great post!

John~ Have you nothing better to do than come here and pick apart everything Jenna is saying and doing? It is obvious that you enjoy debate, maybe you should call up our politicians and leave Jenna alone to do what she does very well!

]]> By: erin_d_a http://birthparents.adoptionblogs.com/weblogs/i-m-not-your-birth-mother/comment-page-1#comment-1366 erin_d_a Tue, 21 Aug 2007 17:09:03 +0000 http://birth-first.www.adoptionblogs.com/2007/08/20/i-m-not-your-birth-mother#comment-1366 John,<br /> <br /> You don't get it. You don't get adoption or adoption related issues and are looking at adoption through a fifty year old lens, despite that much has changed in the way people are treated in adoption since then. <br /> <br /> Also how does Quixote even relate at all? People who throw out literary references that don't apply don't make themselves appear smarter by doing so. John,

You don’t get it. You don’t get adoption or adoption related issues and are looking at adoption through a fifty year old lens, despite that much has changed in the way people are treated in adoption since then.

Also how does Quixote even relate at all? People who throw out literary references that don’t apply don’t make themselves appear smarter by doing so.

]]> By: happygmom http://birthparents.adoptionblogs.com/weblogs/i-m-not-your-birth-mother/comment-page-1#comment-1365 happygmom Tue, 21 Aug 2007 01:47:05 +0000 http://birth-first.www.adoptionblogs.com/2007/08/20/i-m-not-your-birth-mother#comment-1365 Jenna!<br /> <br /> Brilliant as always. Love the photo which is so eloquent about "our" birthmother. I thought that the birthmother term was horrible, then as I read more about the adoption world, I saw the use of "our" birthmother. I was repelled beyond words.<br /> <br /> Janet Jenna!

Brilliant as always. Love the photo which is so eloquent about “our” birthmother. I thought that the birthmother term was horrible, then as I read more about the adoption world, I saw the use of “our” birthmother. I was repelled beyond words.

Janet

]]> By: lahdh4 http://birthparents.adoptionblogs.com/weblogs/i-m-not-your-birth-mother/comment-page-1#comment-1364 lahdh4 Tue, 21 Aug 2007 01:25:16 +0000 http://birth-first.www.adoptionblogs.com/2007/08/20/i-m-not-your-birth-mother#comment-1364 Jenna, I so agree with you about this. It is just one in a long line of words and/or sentences that are used that make me cringe. Jenna, I so agree with you about this. It is just one in a long line of words and/or sentences that are used that make me cringe.

]]> By: AdoptionBlogs Editor http://birthparents.adoptionblogs.com/weblogs/i-m-not-your-birth-mother/comment-page-1#comment-1363 AdoptionBlogs Editor Mon, 20 Aug 2007 22:49:29 +0000 http://birth-first.www.adoptionblogs.com/2007/08/20/i-m-not-your-birth-mother#comment-1363 John, I think you missed the point but see no reason to explain it as it was done very well in the blog and subsequent comments.<br /> Your Quixotic reference is a bit out of place. John, I think you missed the point but see no reason to explain it as it was done very well in the blog and subsequent comments.
Your Quixotic reference is a bit out of place.

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