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It’s here. 2009. Have you started writing on your clean slate of a new year yet? This week I plan on giving you some ideas to help you start your adoption relationship(s) off on a great foot. And so what is first on my list?
Write letters!
Of course, that’s a rather vague goal. So I want you to define the quantity of letters that you will write to your child (grown or adult) or your child’s family in 2009. A very attainable goal is one letter per month. That means you would write twelve letters in 2009. Not too difficult, I promise but, at the same time, a bit of a challenge.
This was one of my goals in 2008. I did great right up until August when things went a little crazy schedule wise. I’m pretty upset with myself that I dropped the ball in this way. But, I did also keep in contact via phone, email, pictures and gifts so it wasn’t as if I fell off of the Earth to my daughter or her family. Still, it is another goal of mine this year: to write one letter a month. And, the tricky part: MAIL IT!
What are some things you can do to ensure that you’re actually going to write the letter (and mail it)? Put it in your schedule/planner/organizer! I did this last night for both January and February. No, really, I did! (I’m ever the dork, no?) Just write a small note on your calendar: write & mail letter! I have chosen to do mine the last week of each month. I will warn you, however, that creates an issue if you are suddenly busy the last week. And so, my other tip is that you should write your letter on the first day of the month. Why don’t I? Because I want to send pictures of my sons to my relinquished daughter as I always explain what we have done each month. One could argue that I could recap the previous month but I’m nothing if not anal about doing things a particular way.
All the same, I encourage you to get into letter writing this year. I’ll probably post once a month asking how the letter writing is going. Do let me know the progress!
Look tomorrow for another goal idea for birth parents!
