A question was posed over on the forums recently. A member asked, “Do I need counseling?” She asked as she was dealing with some new emotions that had come to the surface since the relinquishment of her child. My answer, after reading her post, was simple.
If you find yourself asking the question as to whether or not you need counseling, the default answer should always be, “Yes.”
First and foremost, we should talk about how attending therapy or counseling do not automatically write you off as being unstable or any other negative connotation associated with seeking help. In fact, it should be a sign that you are able to recognize your own emotional needs and are responsive to the fact that a third party’s input could be beneficial to your own healing.
If you are considering therapy or counseling, you are likely trying to process something. Whether it is in direct relation to the grief caused by relinquishment or the fallout that relinquishment can cause in other relationships, you should know that no reason is really too small. If you’re feeling unsure of yourself or how you are processing things, seeking out the help of a qualified professional could be in your best interest. And, to be honest, in the best interest of your child, your relationships, your professional life and basically in all aspects of your life.
I am of the belief that most anyone could benefit from talking to someone about their emotional issues. I believe this in an even stronger fashion when it comes to birth parents. Not because we are an unstable group of people but because we have been through a trauma that the larger population doesn’t quite understand. Therefore we are often left feeling alone. Talking to someone about what we are feeling can be extremely beneficial!
And so, if you have asked yourself as of late whether or not you should seek out some emotional help, I encourage you to take that step today!