Comments on: Coming Up in 2007: You Choose! http://birthparents.adoptionblogs.com/weblogs/coming-up-in-2007-you-choose A blog for and about parents who have placed a child for adoption. Tue, 02 Feb 2010 22:23:05 -0700 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.8.4 hourly 1 By: thomasina http://birthparents.adoptionblogs.com/weblogs/coming-up-in-2007-you-choose/comment-page-1#comment-2722 thomasina Thu, 28 Dec 2006 14:08:35 +0000 http://birth-first.www.adoptionblogs.com/2006/12/27/coming-up-in-2007-you-choose#comment-2722 I like all of the topics you propose. I am most interested in the one about birth/adoptive parents in open adoption. I might add adoptees to that as well. The more data collected on the experiences of people on all sides of the triad in open adoption, the more realistic picture society will have of it; the more we can predict and be prepared for potential problems. Currently, we approach open adoption with little more than our assumptions, fears, opinions rather than real information. I think this perpetuates the unfortunate prejudice against it. <br /> I am also interested in the proposed series about birthparents going on to parent other children. This has certainly posed challenges for me and would guess for many others, too. I like all of the topics you propose. I am most interested in the one about birth/adoptive parents in open adoption. I might add adoptees to that as well. The more data collected on the experiences of people on all sides of the triad in open adoption, the more realistic picture society will have of it; the more we can predict and be prepared for potential problems. Currently, we approach open adoption with little more than our assumptions, fears, opinions rather than real information. I think this perpetuates the unfortunate prejudice against it.
I am also interested in the proposed series about birthparents going on to parent other children. This has certainly posed challenges for me and would guess for many others, too.

]]> By: Peanut http://birthparents.adoptionblogs.com/weblogs/coming-up-in-2007-you-choose/comment-page-1#comment-2721 Peanut Thu, 28 Dec 2006 01:23:24 +0000 http://birth-first.www.adoptionblogs.com/2006/12/27/coming-up-in-2007-you-choose#comment-2721 I am very interested in your planned series about birthparents going on to parent other children. Our 4 yr old's first mom just welcomed her son in August & yesterday we got the news our youngest child's first mom is due in May! This has also been a very different experience than with our oldest who has three older bio sibs.<br /> What ever topics you find I am sure they will be interesting.<br /> Have a Happy New Year! I am very interested in your planned series about birthparents going on to parent other children. Our 4 yr old’s first mom just welcomed her son in August & yesterday we got the news our youngest child’s first mom is due in May! This has also been a very different experience than with our oldest who has three older bio sibs.
What ever topics you find I am sure they will be interesting.
Have a Happy New Year!

]]> By: Chance http://birthparents.adoptionblogs.com/weblogs/coming-up-in-2007-you-choose/comment-page-1#comment-2720 Chance Wed, 27 Dec 2006 20:46:13 +0000 http://birth-first.www.adoptionblogs.com/2006/12/27/coming-up-in-2007-you-choose#comment-2720 Hi Jenna - Those topics you have written out are very good and look forward to reading them! Some suggestions might be (if you are able to answer) how a.parents deal with b.parents being present (maybe J or D would be willing to write a few posts about that?). I look forward to Love Thursday so I'm glad you are keeping up with that. Would love to hear more about your "story" that is called your life. Again, don't know if it's relevent but I know you touched on in a bit about a.parents going on to have more children. How does it affect the child, do they feel not as "special" b/c of a new biological baby? Or do they not comprehend that issue. Is the munchkin too young to realize that her brother N. is not adopted like her? Does it matter to her? To other kids? I just love the personal aspect you bring to this blog. I love when you are able to open up and explain how you are really feeling deep down (the bad, the good and the ugly). I don't think you are "too positive" or "too negitive", you are you! And this "story" is YOUR "story" and you are free to share it however pretty it is! I like reading your blog! Hi Jenna – Those topics you have written out are very good and look forward to reading them! Some suggestions might be (if you are able to answer) how a.parents deal with b.parents being present (maybe J or D would be willing to write a few posts about that?). I look forward to Love Thursday so I’m glad you are keeping up with that. Would love to hear more about your “story” that is called your life. Again, don’t know if it’s relevent but I know you touched on in a bit about a.parents going on to have more children. How does it affect the child, do they feel not as “special” b/c of a new biological baby? Or do they not comprehend that issue. Is the munchkin too young to realize that her brother N. is not adopted like her? Does it matter to her? To other kids? I just love the personal aspect you bring to this blog. I love when you are able to open up and explain how you are really feeling deep down (the bad, the good and the ugly). I don’t think you are “too positive” or “too negitive”, you are you! And this “story” is YOUR “story” and you are free to share it however pretty it is! I like reading your blog!

]]> By: JustJayne http://birthparents.adoptionblogs.com/weblogs/coming-up-in-2007-you-choose/comment-page-1#comment-2719 JustJayne Wed, 27 Dec 2006 19:41:26 +0000 http://birth-first.www.adoptionblogs.com/2006/12/27/coming-up-in-2007-you-choose#comment-2719 I think it would be interesting for you to write a month-to-month account of what feelings and emotions a firstmother goes through before during and after placement. Usually all humans have a specific grief/loss pattern that they follow emotionally for whatever is lost (believe me, I went through it with even losing my kidneys). I think it would be a good thing for especially adoptive parents to read, and maybe firstparents would also see that they aren't alone. Plus I think it would give validation to these emotions, especially if someone is having a hard time healing.<br /> <br /> On a side note, adoptive parents go through these same stages for different reasons, which I know sometimes firstparents don't realize (just like adoptive parents don't realize firstparents feel this way.) So maybe a few comparisons along the way to tie it all together? I think it would be interesting for you to write a month-to-month account of what feelings and emotions a firstmother goes through before during and after placement. Usually all humans have a specific grief/loss pattern that they follow emotionally for whatever is lost (believe me, I went through it with even losing my kidneys). I think it would be a good thing for especially adoptive parents to read, and maybe firstparents would also see that they aren’t alone. Plus I think it would give validation to these emotions, especially if someone is having a hard time healing.

On a side note, adoptive parents go through these same stages for different reasons, which I know sometimes firstparents don’t realize (just like adoptive parents don’t realize firstparents feel this way.) So maybe a few comparisons along the way to tie it all together?

]]> By: afrindiemum http://birthparents.adoptionblogs.com/weblogs/coming-up-in-2007-you-choose/comment-page-1#comment-2718 afrindiemum Wed, 27 Dec 2006 17:26:24 +0000 http://birth-first.www.adoptionblogs.com/2006/12/27/coming-up-in-2007-you-choose#comment-2718 i want to know more about your adoption 'journey'. specifically, if you're willing and able to share, how the openness evolved since you didn't want openness in the beginning. how did a's aparents approach you with it and why, etc. i find it a very interesting dynamic. <br /> <br /> maybe also (even though i know your personal experience hasn't involved this aspect) write about how to open an adoption that's been closed by the first parents :) <br /> <br /> but anything you write, i read. i want to know more about your adoption ‘journey’. specifically, if you’re willing and able to share, how the openness evolved since you didn’t want openness in the beginning. how did a’s aparents approach you with it and why, etc. i find it a very interesting dynamic.

maybe also (even though i know your personal experience hasn’t involved this aspect) write about how to open an adoption that’s been closed by the first parents :)

but anything you write, i read.

]]> By: Jenna Hatfield http://birthparents.adoptionblogs.com/weblogs/coming-up-in-2007-you-choose/comment-page-1#comment-2717 Jenna Hatfield Wed, 27 Dec 2006 15:50:53 +0000 http://birth-first.www.adoptionblogs.com/2006/12/27/coming-up-in-2007-you-choose#comment-2717 Oh good one, Heather. Definitely. Oh good one, Heather. Definitely.

]]> By: Heather Lowe http://birthparents.adoptionblogs.com/weblogs/coming-up-in-2007-you-choose/comment-page-1#comment-2716 Heather Lowe Wed, 27 Dec 2006 15:04:38 +0000 http://birth-first.www.adoptionblogs.com/2006/12/27/coming-up-in-2007-you-choose#comment-2716 How has it affected your relationships with your immediate family--mother, father, siblings?<br /> <br /> How has it affected your relationships with your immediate family–mother, father, siblings?

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