Comments on: Coming Out as a Birth Mother – Part One http://birthparents.adoptionblogs.com/weblogs/coming-out-as-a-birth-mother-part-one A blog for and about parents who have placed a child for adoption. Tue, 02 Feb 2010 22:23:05 -0700 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.8.4 hourly 1 By: Jenna Hatfield http://birthparents.adoptionblogs.com/weblogs/coming-out-as-a-birth-mother-part-one/comment-page-1#comment-1507 Jenna Hatfield Mon, 08 Jan 2007 17:19:06 +0000 http://birth-first.www.adoptionblogs.com/2007/01/08/coming-out-as-a-birth-mother-part-one#comment-1507 Sandra; until this past summer, Josh's paternal side of the family did not know of the Munchkin either. Part of my healing (along with therapy) this past year has been to say who I am without reservation. Of course, I still have reservations. It's big. It's scary. It's real and in your face. But I'm making my way along, I think. I still have issues with it. It's hard to tell my shame to shut the heck up for a few minutes while I discuss who I am with someone. Gah! <br /> <br /> So, no, I haven't always been this comfortable with who I am. Even now, I have days where I just want to pull the covers back over my head and retreat. But having you think that makes me feel a little better. LOL.<br /> <br /> Judy; yeah. Friends are nice. :) Sandra; until this past summer, Josh’s paternal side of the family did not know of the Munchkin either. Part of my healing (along with therapy) this past year has been to say who I am without reservation. Of course, I still have reservations. It’s big. It’s scary. It’s real and in your face. But I’m making my way along, I think. I still have issues with it. It’s hard to tell my shame to shut the heck up for a few minutes while I discuss who I am with someone. Gah!

So, no, I haven’t always been this comfortable with who I am. Even now, I have days where I just want to pull the covers back over my head and retreat. But having you think that makes me feel a little better. LOL.

Judy; yeah. Friends are nice. :)

]]> By: Sandra Hanks Benoiton http://birthparents.adoptionblogs.com/weblogs/coming-out-as-a-birth-mother-part-one/comment-page-1#comment-1506 Sandra Hanks Benoiton Mon, 08 Jan 2007 17:01:33 +0000 http://birth-first.www.adoptionblogs.com/2007/01/08/coming-out-as-a-birth-mother-part-one#comment-1506 I must have missed something along the line, Jenna, as I've assumed you've been up front about this all along. Being 'introduced' to you on the forums, then reading your blogs I had no idea that you were ever in the closet.<br /> <br /> It's certainly not that I can't understand the circumstances that might have led you to keeping this under wraps, it's more that you give the impression of being so comfortable with who you are that it seems it's always been the case.<br /> <br /> I'll read you a little differently from now on ... with more appreciation of those fears, I suppose. <br /> <br /> As for outing bringing more anxieties, you are a public person now, and your story ... and your child's story ... is in the world. I know that makes me nervous. I must have missed something along the line, Jenna, as I’ve assumed you’ve been up front about this all along. Being ‘introduced’ to you on the forums, then reading your blogs I had no idea that you were ever in the closet.

It’s certainly not that I can’t understand the circumstances that might have led you to keeping this under wraps, it’s more that you give the impression of being so comfortable with who you are that it seems it’s always been the case.

I’ll read you a little differently from now on … with more appreciation of those fears, I suppose.

As for outing bringing more anxieties, you are a public person now, and your story … and your child’s story … is in the world. I know that makes me nervous.

]]> By: JudyK http://birthparents.adoptionblogs.com/weblogs/coming-out-as-a-birth-mother-part-one/comment-page-1#comment-1505 JudyK Mon, 08 Jan 2007 15:33:05 +0000 http://birth-first.www.adoptionblogs.com/2007/01/08/coming-out-as-a-birth-mother-part-one#comment-1505 What a wonderful, sweet reply from your friend. Those are the ones who matter, not the anonymous yahoos. :) What a wonderful, sweet reply from your friend. Those are the ones who matter, not the anonymous yahoos. :)

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