Blogging is an interesting way to work towards healing. However, one negative aspect is that your words, at any given time, are out there for you and the public to read. If someone reads out of order or only one post, they don't get the whole picture (as I talked about yesterday). One more important thing that people tend to forget when reading, which equates to a big old negative mark for blogging as a birth parent, is that healing is not a linear function.

While there are five stages of grief, I've not yet met one person who went through them, in a timely fashion, all in the exact row. Some people take one step forward and two steps back. Some people skip around within the stages of grief. Some people make it to acceptance only to be thrown back to denial by life events.

And while all of that is normal and to be expected, the public sometimes misses that fact. Blogs can really be a great way to watch your progress towards healing. It's great to look back a year or two and read how far you have come in that time. However, if you have a new life experience that is making you deal with things all over again or in a different manner, it can be equally discouraging. It gets all the more complicated when someone who is not intimately involved in your healing points out that x-number of months ago you were just fine with x-aspect of your healing journey and now you're struggling. While you could chalk that up to being held accountable for your actions and emotions, sometimes we need to be free to feel how we feel without judgment.

This particular "con" isn't exactly all negative. It's only negative when we, the bloggers ourselves, forget that healing can take many shapes and forms and paths or when we are told that our healing path is wrong by readers. As long as we remember that healing is not a linear function, we should be just fine blogging about that healing.



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