While I spent a whole week talking about the pros of blogging as a birth parent, the truth remains that nothing is all positive. Blogging, in general, has some negative things attached to it and when you throw in the birth parent slant, some other topic specific issues are thrown into the mix.

When I think about the cons of blogging as a birth parent, one sits in the front of my mind: the constant talk of adoption. That doesn't initially seem like a bad thing. After all, for many birth parents, the adoption of their child was a big event, possibly one of the biggest in their lives. Talking about adoption gives them room to voice their grief and loss and find support from others who have been through similar experiences.

But trust me. I know what I'm talking about.

The constant discussion of adoption, via blogging, day in and day out gets old. There are days that I don't want to talk about adoption. I want to talk about vegetables. Or cloud shapes. Or, you know, those wonderful children that I parent on a daily basis. But I get stuck arguing adoption rhetoric with people who don't value my opinion or experience because of my title in the adoption triad. I get stuck defending my decision and my experience. I get stuck talk about adoption when I'd rather be doing laundry. That's right. Laundry.

It's hard. Adoption is not a totally warm and fuzzy feeling inducing topic for me. It's just not a rainbow and butterfly experience that I have been through and I don't magically expect it to turn into one. Therefore, talking about it brings forth some emotions that are hard to deal with at times. While an argument can be made that pushing those emotions to the forefront and dealing with them head on is a great step towards healing, the constant forcing of the issue by people who don't care about my healing or even see a need for such healing can be daunting.

And so, yes, I think that the constant talk of adoption can be difficult for blogging birth parents who are making their way towards healing. I've seen it be counterproductive for some. However, if you have that fact in your mind, you can better take care of yourself and your emotional journey while blogging. Don't be afraid to take a break.

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