Blogs are mere snapshots of our lives. Sometimes readers forget that bloggers live lives outside of their internet blog. This is especially difficult to remember while reading niche blogs. (Niche blogs being those that focus on a very specific part of the blogger's life, such as an adoption blog.)

Sometimes readers forget that birth parents are more than just birth parents. They forget that they are career men and women with jobs and responsibilities. They forget that they parent other children and thus have those joys and woes. They forget that they are daughters, sons, brothers and sisters; people with families. They forget that they are friends. They forget that they are simply human beings with a wide array of interests.

For some reason, if you blog on adoption as a birth parent, people are quick to forget that human aspect of your life. They seem to miss the fact that your adoption blogging is not a whole look at your entire life. It's just a glimpse. If you write one post in which you voice anger, you are automatically angry at everything in your life. If you write one post in which you voice some sadness, you are labeled as depressed and not fit to function. (Judgmental) Readers are quick to find the most negative thing in your post and not the points in which you look at the silver lining despite the dark clouds.

When someone refuses to look at the whole you or acknowledge that there are other parts of you outside of your blog, realize that it is their issue. Step back for a second and realize that you are a complete person, not just a birth parent. Don't allow them to make you feel guilty for sharing one aspect of your life. (Besides, if you blogged every single thing that you did every single day, it would be a very boring and mundane blog, no? Sentences like "I brushed my teeth but forgot to floss," don't really bring on the readers or the healing!)



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