Comments on: Birthmother’s Day Cons http://birthparents.adoptionblogs.com/weblogs/birthmother-s-day-cons A blog for and about parents who have placed a child for adoption. Tue, 17 Nov 2009 16:02:45 -0700 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.8.4 hourly 1 By: vegasmom http://birthparents.adoptionblogs.com/weblogs/birthmother-s-day-cons/comment-page-1#comment-2392 vegasmom Wed, 07 May 2008 17:58:37 +0000 http://birth-first.www.adoptionblogs.com/2008/05/07/birthmother-s-day-cons#comment-2392 "I'm more than just a birther" Amen sister. I wholeheartedly agree. I have been a "birthmother" for 27 years now and I have never even heard of birth-mothers day. Yes Mother's Day can be very very difficult, and I am working through it. However,I for one choose to include my son, my birth experience with him, with my other children on Mothers Day. My reason is simple-he does not say "I love you birth-mom", he says "I love you Mom". Period, the end. “I’m more than just a birther” Amen sister. I wholeheartedly agree. I have been a “birthmother” for 27 years now and I have never even heard of birth-mothers day. Yes Mother’s Day can be very very difficult, and I am working through it. However,I for one choose to include my son, my birth experience with him, with my other children on Mothers Day. My reason is simple-he does not say “I love you birth-mom”, he says “I love you Mom”. Period, the end.

]]> By: desperate http://birthparents.adoptionblogs.com/weblogs/birthmother-s-day-cons/comment-page-1#comment-2391 desperate Wed, 07 May 2008 12:49:35 +0000 http://birth-first.www.adoptionblogs.com/2008/05/07/birthmother-s-day-cons#comment-2391 Just joined today. I adopted an 8-1/2 year old 7 years ago. He was a 5 when placed in foster care and 4 homes later came to us. He has been violent had to be placed in a group home for our protection a couple of years ago. We continured contact with him and after 8 months he returned home. He had been home for nearly a year and on Thursday he was again placed in a group home. This time he was charged by police for assault on me and placed on an undertaking to have no contact with me. This can be removed by a judge. He told his social worker that he needed therapy, something that he has only played with thus far. By that, he mean he would go and not go. AS crazy as it sounds we have not given up. All who have worked with my son see a bond that has developed and though he has done some horrible things, he is a great kid in so many ways. I love him. I am not sure if I can have him back in my home. MY trust is quite broken and I want to be safe. We do want to continue to work with him and are hoping that he will work too. He has told group home staff and social workers that he knows that his parents love him and he wants to come home. <br /> <br /> Any words of wisdom would be greatly appreciated. Just joined today. I adopted an 8-1/2 year old 7 years ago. He was a 5 when placed in foster care and 4 homes later came to us. He has been violent had to be placed in a group home for our protection a couple of years ago. We continured contact with him and after 8 months he returned home. He had been home for nearly a year and on Thursday he was again placed in a group home. This time he was charged by police for assault on me and placed on an undertaking to have no contact with me. This can be removed by a judge. He told his social worker that he needed therapy, something that he has only played with thus far. By that, he mean he would go and not go. AS crazy as it sounds we have not given up. All who have worked with my son see a bond that has developed and though he has done some horrible things, he is a great kid in so many ways. I love him. I am not sure if I can have him back in my home. MY trust is quite broken and I want to be safe. We do want to continue to work with him and are hoping that he will work too. He has told group home staff and social workers that he knows that his parents love him and he wants to come home.

Any words of wisdom would be greatly appreciated.

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