Last month I did a loose series (which means it accidentally became a series of related posts) on topics that surround weddings and marriage as they pertain to first parents. I promised to include personal stories from birth parents who have things to say on the matter. I'm just now getting around to finally collecting this information and sharing it with my readers.

Starting on Monday of next week, I will be sharing various stories on the matter. As always, the mothers that I surveyed include an array of both closed and open adoption experiences. While most are already married, some divorced and one on the cusp of a marriage, they all have had interesting things to share on the topics involved.

Similar to what we find in the adoption world regarding open relationships, there is no guarantee that a marriage will work or last. These mothers and wives have some valuable information to depart to readers who have not yet made the venture into marriage or are considering taking that leap of faith. Whether their experience is immensely positive or overtly negative, their words can teach us all a lesson or two.

Some questions and answers will be specific to the planning and celebration of the wedding ceremony and how these parents chose to involve (or not) their child and the adoptive family. We will get a glimpse into a birth mother's mind and heart on a wedding day which is already filled with a billion other emotions. Other questions and answers specifically pertain to marriage itself and how to make it work even when adoption issues "get in the way."

These mothers and wives represent a small (very small!) section of a much larger group. As always, these stories, answers and experiences should be counted as individual ones and not as though they are speaking for the entire group of women who are both first mothers and wives (or ex-wives). While you may see some similar strings through their words that make it possible to come to some conclusions, do realize that every birth mother will react slightly if not completely different to issues surrounding marriage and adoption. Please treat these mothers and their stories with respect as they stepped out on a limb to share with us so we might have a glimpse into the issue.

We'll see you with stories on Monday!

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For more posts on weddings, marriage and adoption, read:

1. Getting Married: Things for Birth Parents to Consider.

2. Etiquette for Inviting Your Child to Your Wedding.

3. Involving Your Child in Your Wedding.

4. Marriage: Fears from Adoptive Parents.

5. Marriage: Fears from Birth Parents.

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