Is it too late to say Bah Humbug? It is? Too bad. I've got a bunch of Bah Humbugs (and some other choice words) for the writer of this so-called feature article. "Living with Children" by John Rosemond started out offensive, redeemed itself as the author learned about proper adoption language from a Mother who had written in and then takes a nose-dive into absolute stupidity.

Let's take a gander where things start to fall apart. Again.

in our email exchange, I had expressed my view on so-called "open" adoption, and said adoptive mom agreed. "The (person or persons who contributed directly to the child's genotype) need to move on," she writes, adding that in these truly foreign situations,

You must read back in the article to truly understand what the author and/or adoptive Mother mean by the word foreign used in this article.

and that foreign adoptions are not strange at all. The term inter-national adoption avoids the implication that something peculiar has taken place.

So, this smart-alec author just called birth parents involved in open adoption and, really, all involved in open adoptions "peculiar." I hate the disrespect given to those involved in open adoptions by using the quotations around the word open. I understand that every John and Jane Doe may not feel that openness is the proper way for their family to proceed in adoption. However, to disrespect those involved in open adoptions by basically saying that they aren't a legitimate form of adoption (hence the quotations) is ludicrous.

Throughout the article, I (and my sisters) am referred to as a "biological" parent. Have I mentioned how much I hate the quotations? Why are they necessary? It is 100% fact, no quotations needed, that I am the Munchkin's biological Mother. Run the DNA. I don't claim to be her everyday Mom. But I am and always will be, even after I pass from this Earth, her biological Mother. Don't deny me the very few ties that I have to the child that I conceived, chose life for and brought into this world.

I am so disheartened by the lack of compassion offered to those involved in open adoption. This author's disdain not only falls on the already burdened shoulders of birth parents but extends to adoptive parents who choose this way of raising their child. In the end, he basically puts it on the line that he feels everything should be secretive (because that worked so well for so many adoptees, didn't it?) and that adoptees should wait to search until adulthood.

Of course, it figures, that this man is a "Childhood Psychologist." And looking at his website (which has a ridiculous title), he's older. So, no, he's just not going to "get it," now is he? (Oooh, returning of the quotation marks.)

(PS - Feel free to contact this "intellectual" via the contact form on his "informative website.")