Speaking of adoptee voices, I just found a new adoptee blog that I like. Her blog is entitled Adopt This - Confessions of an Ambivalent Adoptee. She's spunky, funny and irreverent - all qualities which I find attractive in a person!

She describes herself as: "Mostly happy with a touch of anger." Boy, can I identify with that statement! "Mostly happy" is a term that I often use to describe myself. Just because I think adoption has lots of problems to solve doesn't mean that I allow it to prevent me from ever having a happy moment in life.

In fact, because my life is stable, full and rich, I have the strength to stick with adoption reform and try to help affect some change. If I were a miserable malcontent, I probably would have folded under the pressure of keeping my nose in adoption a long time ago. Fighting for change is an exhausting task, and definitely malfunctioning wusses will not last long in the trenches.

As I have mentioned before, there is a price to pay for triad members to be heavily involved so often in adoption issues. To even blog so much about adoption keeps issues in you thinking about adoption the majority of the time. The alternative, not being involved, has a price too.

Some triad members must distance themselves from adoption issues - I did it for years knowing it was what I needed to do to survive. Therefore, I understand that not all triad members can or will speak their piece about issues. Not speaking up does not mean that you have no opinions, just that you may not want or need to share those opinions. Undoubtedly some people are better at voicing their opinions than others as well.

Acknowledging that you have issues is not raising your hand admitting to being a dysfunctional nut case. No one is free from issues whether adoption is in your life or not.

I like the humor and honesty of this blog a great deal! Did I mention that mom and daughter found each other through adoption.com? Adopting.org offers other personal pages of birth families as well.