I realized that in the past when I have discussed searching for a therapist, I left out a possible resource. I apologize to my readers as it is based solely on my experience. I forgot to consider that every birth parent didn't place through an unethical agency and therefore has a great potential resource at their fingertips.

That said: Don't forget to call your agency!

Any ethical agency worth dealing with will have a list of resources for you to utilize... more

This post is not about my political standing nor will I share my political beliefs on this blog. This post, instead, is about the way that politicians insult people like me, in various forms, over and over and the country stands by and allows it to happen.

Perhaps you missed a recent quote by Presidential candidate Barack Obama. Let me share it with you.

Look, I got two daughters — 9 years old and 6 years old,” he said. “I am going to teach them first about... more

Every now and then I read something that warms my heart. With all the gloom and doom that surrounds adoption (or, any subject), it's nice to see a glimmer of hope or happiness in words of another touched by the triad.

A post by an adoptee made me smile for many reasons this morning. It's not an all-around happy post as there are some issues that sit deep within but the sentiment makes me, as a birth mother, feel warm and fuzzy.

The post author talks about her "three... more

I won't lie. I don't like basketball. It's the squeaking shoes. I'm sensitive to sounds and those squeaking shoes annoy me to no end. But a recent article caught me eye. Can you guess why? That's right. It mentioned adoption.

Now, in case you don't know a lick about basketball, we're in the midst of March Madness. The article I'm referring to hit prior to the Kansas (ranked number 1) and Villanova (ranked number 12) game. Unfortunately, Villanova... more

What? Does the title of this post make you scratch your head? Me too. It hails from this article which wears its own title of "Adoption in the Womb." My mind is spinning.

The story is out of Mexico. Some lawmakers are trying to combat abortion. Unfortunately, instead of starting with the actual problem (lack of sexual education and access to legitimate birth control), they're working on after-the-fact issues. Their idea, in case you couldn't guess, is... more

I'm done. I've had it. I don't want to hear anymore. See anymore. Read anymore. Or feel anymore. And the latter is all that television, movies and writings about television and movies have made me do for the past few months. Can't a woman get a break without hiding under a rock? I can't even load my e-mail or my RSS reader without being slapped in the face as of late.

With what? Fertility, infertility, adoption and any variation thereof.

Except when I'm judging local newscasts for errors, grammar and general look and feel, I don't really want to put too much thought into my television time. That time isn't very long nor does it often happen uninterrupted so I like it when my... more

Thursday surprised me again. I can't seem to keep up with my weekdays anymore! That said, in honor of another Thursday Thirteen, I thought I'd hit on thirteen things I'd rather see the media cover when it comes to adoption. I'm tired of the constant negative focus on birth parents who are contesting adoption, exercising their right to reclaim their children before finalization or simply changing their mind and parenting prior to birth or signing of the Termination of Parental Rights. I know you're tired of... more

This has been weighing heavily on my mind since just before Easter. I think I've finally put enough thought into it to, hopefully, make sense in blog format. The truth is that there are no guarantees that your child will be raised the religion you assumed that they would or keep that religion into their adult years.

Many expectant parents do not consider these issues when researching families in which to place their child. In fact, many expectant parents base their search heavily on religion. I find this to be scary! While many would like to believe that... more

Is it 2008? Because this article just transported me back fifty-or-so years. It also further proves a point that many of today's birth mothers are saying: stigmas against single mothers are still alive and well.

Mothers who have relinquished in the past twenty years are often told that they don't know what it was like "back in the day." And I agree, to a point. While very few young mothers are now shipped off to homes and hidden from the public to relinquish their children in secret and silence, the... more

Hopefully you participated in yesterday's game. In case you missed it, the question I asked was:

What percentage of adoptions are contested?

I also gave information to help define what contested means.

Remember that contested means that a biological parent (or other pertinent entity) attempts to legally fight the adoption based on the laws that govern their state. This could be an accusation of fraud... more