As if the constant talk of adoption isn't bad enough, blogging birth parents need to beware the trolls. I recently talked about personal attacks via blog comments but it needs mentioned again in this series.

Trolls exist on the internet. They thrive on drama, confrontation and the anonymity that the internet provides. Many of these rude individuals would never say the things that... more

While I spent a whole week talking about the pros of blogging as a birth parent, the truth remains that nothing is all positive. Blogging, in general, has some negative things attached to it and when you throw in the birth parent slant, some other topic specific issues are thrown into the mix.

When I think about the cons of blogging as a birth parent, one sits in the front of my mind: the constant talk of adoption. That doesn't initially seem like a bad thing. After all, for many birth parents, the adoption of their child was a big event, possibly... more

I hope you have enjoyed the past five days of posts regarding the pros of blogging as a birth parent. I have enjoyed thinking of some of the many positive aspects of blogging about adoption from the perspective of a birth parent. Let me say, point blank, I've only covered five reasons. There are many, many more great reasons to put your voice out there in blog format.

In my experience, blogging about adoption has been overwhelmingly positive. Yes, I've had some negative experiences and I'll talk about those next week. But, for the most part, I have had... more

On my last day writing about the positives of blogging as a birth parent, I am going to talk about one of the most important aspects: fostering change. Healing is very important. Learning is vitally important. But change is needed and being able to spearhead and foster that change is a great feeling!

Whether you've had a good experience with your relinquishment or an awful one, chances are that you realize that certain things need to be changed. Whether you agree with the majority of birth parents regarding the fact that adoptees have a right to their Original... more

I am writing this post in a light-hearted manner mainly because, while positive, the rest of the week has been kind of deep and introspective. I thought this would be a great time to delve into one of the lesser known, more-upbeat positive points of blogging as a birth parent. (Especially seeing as how I'm going back to deep and introspective tomorrow!)

But it's true, folks. Freebies exist for bloggers and adoption bloggers are no exception to the rule. While getting freebies shouldn't be your sole reason for blogging, it's just an added perk.

Examples... more

Blogging about adoption as a birth parent can start a dialogue between you and those who are reading. In fact, that's often the point of blogging in general: to start a dialogue. The real benefit for birth parents is when people whom you are close to are reading.

Examples include your spouse, your own parents, your child's adoptive parents or your adult child. Before you freak out and say, "I don't want some of those people reading what I write," I'm going to challenge you with the question of, "Why?"

I understand that we all need safe places to... more

As I continue talking about the pros of blogging as a birth parent, I find it necessary to talk about the healing aspects of blogging and writing next. I could save it for last, as I do find it to be one of the most important reasons behind blogging, but I just want my readers to know and understand this benefit.

The act of writing, whether publicly or privately, can be a catalyst in one's healing. I found an amazing quote as to why that is (meaning, I'm not just making this stuff up!) on... more

I think almost any blogger would agree, birth parent or otherwise, that the number one reason that blogging can be a positive experience is the learning tied into blogging. Let me tell you, I have learned so much in my many years as a blogger. Even more awesome is the fact that I am learning on a daily basis in many different ways.

Here are a few ways that you can learn as a blogging birth parent.

1. You will learn about yourself.... more

To start off my series on blogging as a birth parent, I'm going to spend an entire week looking at the "pros" that come with the territory. (You may be forward thinking enough to guess that I'll hit on the negatives next week.) I thought I'd start off this week with a brief "positive message" to get everyone in the right frame of mind.

Blogging is what you make of it. You also get out of it what you put into it.

There's a lot of meaning in those... more

If you're reading this post, you probably know about blogs. Of course, you could have happened upon this post by accident or Google search for a birth parent related topic and so I will throw a definition of "blog" out there so that we're all on the same page. From the Wiktionary:

A personal or corporate website in the form of an online journal, with new entries appearing in sequence as they are written, especially as dealing with reflections or opinion, and typically incorporating links to other... more