Heads Up! A New Open Adoption Book Tour!

April 21st, 2010
Categories: Books

LifegiversI am very excited that the second Open Adoption Book Tour will feature Lifegivers by James Gritter. If you've been a long-time reader of this blog, you know my passion for this book. In fact, you may have read my very long, very detailed series on the book. I'm so excited that other people are going to read this book about the birth parent experience in open adoption. I've read the book three times myself. Why am I so excited about a book I've already read the heck out of, highlighted and rehighlighted and spilled coffee on twice? Because people need to read it. As this is a birth parent blog, I'm going to appeal to my birth parent readers for a… [more]

Do You Read Books About Adoption?

January 30th, 2010
Categories: Books

BooksSimilar to my discussion yesterday about adoption blogs, I'm wondering if other birth parents read books about adoption. For awhile, I specifically sought out books that were about the subject. Fictional and non-fiction, I read them all. I read how-to books on birth parent grief and the essence of birth parenting. I read fictional accounts about mothers who chose adoption and either loved it or hated it. I read histories of mothers who had come before me on this adoption journey. I read and I read and I read and I read. And then I never wanted to read another book about adoption ever again. At that point in time, I just started reading my everyday books. Do you know what… [more]

Book Review: Not My Daughter

January 26th, 2010
Categories: Books, Reviews

While the movie I just recently watched was about teen girls experiencing planned (but young) pregnancies, the book Not My Daughter is about the mothers of those girls. Some might argue that they're the same thing and that you only need one or the other. I disagree. And, as a birth mother, I'm quite glad I decided to read Barbara Delinsky's newest novel. In fact, I read it less than 24 hours. It was that good. None of the teen mothers who purposefully chose to get pregnant in this book went on to place their babies for adoption. Adoption itself was mentioned as early as page 28 in the book but the main theme in the book wasn't an abortion, adoption or parenting debate. Interestingly, as I said… [more]

Primal Wound Book Tour

December 14th, 2009
Categories: Books

BooksI must admit that reading the Primal Wound was difficult for me as a birth parent. Especially as I am the everyday mother of two other children, the ability to compare and contrast the situations was sometimes overwhelming. There were parts of the book that left me feeling rather helpless. Nothing can be done about the decisions made in the past and nothing Verrier wrote gives birth parents (and adoptive parents) living in open adoption an inkling of what should be done. (Which, mind you, is not her fault. Different generation, different current scenarios but still some of the very same issues at hand.) But that doesn't mean I'm not glad that I read it. I am. I have been procrastinating the actual… [more]

Why Birth Parents Should Read The Primal Wound

October 27th, 2009
Categories: Books

The Primal Wound As I posted yesterday, we're giving away a copy of The Primal Wound by Nancy Verrier. We're hoping that others in the triad will join in the book tour scheduled for next month. While some argue that the book is for adoptees, as they're the ones who have been affected the most by the adoption, still others argue that the book is for adoptive parents who are raising the child. I'm here to argue that while those other points are true, the book is also important for birth parents. Why? Birth parents aren't involved in the day-to-day raising of the child. Even birth parents who are fortunate enough to be involved in fully open adoption relationships complete with… [more]

The Primal Wound Book Tour + Giveaway

October 26th, 2009
Categories: Books

The Primal WoundIn honor of National Adoption Month, which hits us in less than a week, we're going to be participating in the unique "experiment" going on regarding a book, the triad as a whole and what we hope sums up to be a learning experience for the lot of us. Plus, as an added bonus, we're having a little giveaway here on AdoptionBlogs.com. What's all the hoopla about? A book tour will be taking place of the oft-debated, highly controversial book, The Primal Would by Nancy Verrier. You're not familiar with the book? The full title actually reads, "The Primal Wound: Understanding the Adopted Child." In case you think that this book will be an easy read, here's… [more]

Book Review: Handle with Care by Jodi Picoult

July 30th, 2009
Categories: Books

I read Handle with Care by Jodi Picoult while I was on vacation last week. I'm going to be honest: I am not a fan. I hate saying that since another of Picoult's books remains my favorite. While I found Handle With Care to be intriguing, the book pushed too many buttons for my liking. The ending, in true Picoult fashion, left me pretty peeved as well. The premise of the book is that a mother gives birth to a child with osteogenesis imperfecta, otherwise known as Brittle Bone Disease. Through a series of events during the child's fifth year of life, the family ends up suing the mother's original OBGYN for what is known as "wrongful birth." The book follows the lawsuit, the problems that arise within the family and… [more]

Book Review: The English American

June 12th, 2008
Categories: Books

I was sent The English American by Alison Larkin for review, well, many months ago. It has taken me until now to pick it up. Once picked up, I couldn't put it down. Not only is the writing absolutely phenomenal but the subject was so close to my heart that I simply needed to know how it ended. Not a spoiler because it doesn't end in the way you expect but: it has a happy ending. And as the book is about an adoptee, her search for her biological parents and the (wacky) reunion that ensues, a happy ending is what every birth parent should want for their child. All that said, I don't imagine that Pippa, the main character and adoptee, would say, if she… [more]

Book Review: Then She Found Me

October 10th, 2007
Categories: Books

I decided to read Then She Found Me, a novel by Elinor Lipman, after I found out that it was being turned into a movie starring Bette Midler and Helen Hunt. I found it at our library, brought it home and stared at it for awhile. If it was being turned into a movie, well, what did that mean? Was it just that good or was it so outrageous that it would be mildly offensive? Finally, I picked it up. And could hardly force myself to put it down. I'll admit: I should have read this book before I knew which famous celebrities would be portraying the characters in the book. It kind of shades how you read and perceive things. Even still, I… [more]

Book Review: B-Mother

September 24th, 2007
Categories: Books

I don't often hold much hope for novels written about the birth parent experience. Fiction leaves room for exaggeration and personal opinion and so I try to go into reading with an open mind. My mind was blown by B-Mother by Maureen O'Brien (2007). While, in the end, some loose ends tie up too neatly, I think this is one of the best fictional books I've read on adoption and the birth parent experience. The main character, Hillary, finds herself pregnant at the beginning of her junior year of high school (1981). Only sixteen years of age, she is familiar with grief and loss as her older brother died during an unfortunate hazing event in college four years prior. Her parents, still overwhelmed… [more]