Heads Up! A New Open Adoption Book Tour!

April 21st, 2010
Categories: Books

LifegiversI am very excited that the second Open Adoption Book Tour will feature Lifegivers by James Gritter. If you've been a long-time reader of this blog, you know my passion for this book. In fact, you may have read my very long, very detailed series on the book. I'm so excited that other people are going to read this book about the birth parent experience in open adoption. I've read the book three times myself. Why am I so excited about a book I've already read the heck out of, highlighted and rehighlighted and spilled coffee on twice? Because people need to read it. As this is a birth parent blog, I'm going to appeal to my birth parent readers for a… [more]

A Documentary You Don’t Want to Miss

March 31st, 2010
Categories: Movies

FilmI'm not always keen on documentaries. In fact, I'm not always keen on movies. I greatly prefer to lose myself in a book. I don't like to sit still for the amount of time watching a movie of any genre requires. A new documentary has me excited though and I do plan to watch it. Entitled Off and Running, the film features an all-star high school runner who just so happens to have been adopted. Avery Klein-Cloud was apparently born in Texas and was adopted by two (white) lesbians. Avery herself is African-American. She lives in Brooklyn and attends a private Jewish school. All kinds of interesting ideas playing into that, right? What caught my eye wasn't the fact that… [more]

Do You Read Books About Adoption?

January 30th, 2010
Categories: Books

BooksSimilar to my discussion yesterday about adoption blogs, I'm wondering if other birth parents read books about adoption. For awhile, I specifically sought out books that were about the subject. Fictional and non-fiction, I read them all. I read how-to books on birth parent grief and the essence of birth parenting. I read fictional accounts about mothers who chose adoption and either loved it or hated it. I read histories of mothers who had come before me on this adoption journey. I read and I read and I read and I read. And then I never wanted to read another book about adoption ever again. At that point in time, I just started reading my everyday books. Do you know what… [more]

Book Review: Not My Daughter

January 26th, 2010
Categories: Books, Reviews

While the movie I just recently watched was about teen girls experiencing planned (but young) pregnancies, the book Not My Daughter is about the mothers of those girls. Some might argue that they're the same thing and that you only need one or the other. I disagree. And, as a birth mother, I'm quite glad I decided to read Barbara Delinsky's newest novel. In fact, I read it less than 24 hours. It was that good. None of the teen mothers who purposefully chose to get pregnant in this book went on to place their babies for adoption. Adoption itself was mentioned as early as page 28 in the book but the main theme in the book wasn't an abortion, adoption or parenting debate. Interestingly, as I said… [more]

Primal Wound Book Tour

December 14th, 2009
Categories: Books

BooksI must admit that reading the Primal Wound was difficult for me as a birth parent. Especially as I am the everyday mother of two other children, the ability to compare and contrast the situations was sometimes overwhelming. There were parts of the book that left me feeling rather helpless. Nothing can be done about the decisions made in the past and nothing Verrier wrote gives birth parents (and adoptive parents) living in open adoption an inkling of what should be done. (Which, mind you, is not her fault. Different generation, different current scenarios but still some of the very same issues at hand.) But that doesn't mean I'm not glad that I read it. I am. I have been procrastinating the actual… [more]

Reuniting on Television

November 16th, 2009
Categories: Television

I was sitting in my living room, minding my own business when a promo came on the television for a new show. Maybe you've heard of it? Find My Family is a show set to debut on ABC, a channel I rarely watch, on November 23rd. The premise of the show is to reunite family members who have, in the words of the press release, "lost touch." Included in that are, of course, birth parents and the children they relinquished for adoption. The press release can be read here. A unique spin on this particular spinoff of the idea we've seen presented on television over the past few years is that the two searchers on the show are both adoptees. This could be good… [more]

Why Birth Parents Should Read The Primal Wound

October 27th, 2009
Categories: Books

The Primal Wound As I posted yesterday, we're giving away a copy of The Primal Wound by Nancy Verrier. We're hoping that others in the triad will join in the book tour scheduled for next month. While some argue that the book is for adoptees, as they're the ones who have been affected the most by the adoption, still others argue that the book is for adoptive parents who are raising the child. I'm here to argue that while those other points are true, the book is also important for birth parents. Why? Birth parents aren't involved in the day-to-day raising of the child. Even birth parents who are fortunate enough to be involved in fully open adoption relationships complete with… [more]

The Primal Wound Book Tour + Giveaway

October 26th, 2009
Categories: Books

The Primal WoundIn honor of National Adoption Month, which hits us in less than a week, we're going to be participating in the unique "experiment" going on regarding a book, the triad as a whole and what we hope sums up to be a learning experience for the lot of us. Plus, as an added bonus, we're having a little giveaway here on AdoptionBlogs.com. What's all the hoopla about? A book tour will be taking place of the oft-debated, highly controversial book, The Primal Would by Nancy Verrier. You're not familiar with the book? The full title actually reads, "The Primal Wound: Understanding the Adopted Child." In case you think that this book will be an easy read, here's… [more]

New Movie: Mother and Child

September 17th, 2009
Categories: Movies

Movie TheaterI normally loathe movies with an adoption theme. At their best, I tolerate them. (Remember how I was able to find good things to say about Juno? That doesn't mean it's my favorite movie or a good portrayal of adoption. It just means I'm a glass-half-full kinda gal.) At their worst, I rant about them for weeks to my poor, poor husband. When I hear of a movie that has something to do with adoption, I normally tune out. I think about rainbows and butterflies and what to make for dinner. Not so with a new movie entitled Mother and Child. What has left me interested and lacking my usual cringe-and-ignore position? This review. I read it and got chills… [more]

Army Wives & Adoption

August 12th, 2009
Categories: Television

I have a guilty secret: I'm addicted to the Lifetime show Army Wives. Part of it is because I used to be an Army wife. (I'm still married to the same wonderful man. He's just no longer also married to the Army.) The rest of it is the great acting, juicy stories and general drama of the show. There have been some storylines that made me roll my eyes. Other plots have sucked me in without question. The most recent episode threw a surprise adoption story at me! Those meanie-heads! I've talked about other guilty secret shows of mine in the past, like One Tree Hill, throwing adoption at me when I least expected it. This particular plot twist was totally unexpected. Here's what happened, in… [more]