Birth Families Having More Children

February 26th, 2009

Just as birth parents don't have any right to tell adoptive parents how many other children they can have and how they can go about adding to their family, adoptive parents don't have any right to dictate how and when birth parents add to their family. Pretending that it is okay in any fashion is a joke. Some have tried to justify their interference in such an intimate decision by stating that they don't want their child to be hurt. Noble as the intention is phrased, it is still a gross overstepping of a boundary. Should birth parents be concerned with the emotional well-being of their relinquished children? Always. Will they have to answer the child's questions when they arise as to why they felt better… [more]

Breast Cancer and Birth Mothers

October 1st, 2007

October is Breast Cancer Awareness Month. Pink is being rolled out on websites and blogs all over the internet. Pink ribbons are being worn. Money is being donated. And people are talking about the absolute importance of awareness. Talking is good, in my opinion. Getting word out about the importance of self-examinations and other screenings can help women survive. Early detections is key. And that's why we're talking about it here, on the birth/first parent blog, on this very first day of October. First and foremost, my Mother was diagnosed with invasive breast cancer late last week. I'm still feeling the sting. My world is still reeling. We don't know anything more than the word "invasive" and other talk of removing lymph… [more]

An Overview

December 20th, 2006

A List for YouApparently when a blogger has existed for a certain length of time, things need to be restated. As always, you can go back through my archives (I started blogging in October of this year) and read through the posts, one by one, to understand the whole picture. I have recently been accused by two different camps of thought of being too negative and, at the same time, painting an unrealistic "too rosy" portrait of adoption. How I am doing this at the same time confuses even me, but, just to be sure, I'll hit the main points of my adoption journey in bulleted, numbered form so that everyone can understand where I stand. 1. The agency that we used was highly unethical and… [more]

We Voted! Did You?

November 7th, 2006

We Voted! Did You? We got two stickers. We're awesome. Go vote today! No matter where you're from or what the issues on your ballot are today, your voice needs to be heard. Exercise your right to vote! That may be the only exercise some of us get today. (Meaning, myself. HA!)…