How ‘Open’ is Open Adoption

August 24th, 2011

My boysWhen you think of the term 'open' you think of the ability to freely go in and a restaurant displaying their sign 'open'. They don't attach any stipulations to that term such as you can only come in on my good days or you can only eat what I place in front of you...that wouldn't appear to be the 'open' we are all accustomed to. So when you say 'open adoption' does it mean that as a birth mother you can walk in and out of the life of the adoptive parents freely? OR does it mean that the adoptive parents can walk in and out of yours just the same? There seems to be no true definition across the board… [more]

Birth Parent Jealousy

October 10th, 2007
Categories: Other Birthparents

Within any group of people, jealousies exist. Someone always exists who does something better than you. In the work force, there are jealousies about who makes more money (and does less work!). In social circles, someone is always funnier, someone is always thinner and someone always drives a better car. It's no surprise that jealousy doesn't really get to skip over the birth parent contingent of the adoption triad. Because, oh, it doesn't skip us over. At all! Even though there is the standing knowledge that all adoptions are different and that each family deals with them in their own unique way, envy and jealousy can rear their ugly heads when birth parents start comparing their situations to others who "have it better." Sometimes you see this… [more]

Meeting Birthmom Friends

October 11th, 2006
Categories: Other Birthparents

Me (L) and Bre (R)!As I said, I've made quite a few birthmom friends via the wonders of the internet. Unfortunately, quite a few of these women live in far off places. However, I've been blessed to have one or two live within driving distance. Of course, my days of being able to pick up a bag at the drop of a hat and drive three hours have passed. The good news is that others still have that freedom. Enter Bre! Bre drove three hours the other night, knowing that I've been having a blah-kind-of-time dealing with a few issues on my plate. I should let it be known that had Bre not met D, J, the Munchkin and other mutual friends, I wouldn't have let her… [more]