Autumn Leaves

November 10th, 2013

I came to California from Illinois, thinking I don't know what I expected to be honest, but all I know is I spent the first three weeks in tears, crying my heart out  learning healthy boundaries for the first time in years. I chose to attend Bethel School of Supernatural Ministry(BSSM) in April of this year. In coming here, I realized how much I loved my family and no matter how betrayed I felt by specific people, that in order to move forward I had to heal and allow myself to grieve parts of my life I had long forgotten about. Coming here was no easy task. Part of the journey to get here I had to uncover some ugly truth, and deal with a past I would much rather forget… [more]

Giving Birth to New Life: Part 2

July 28th, 2011

Olson FamilyWe have all heard the words before 'you are just like your mother' or 'you are your father's son'. When you hear those words said it is usually meant to be a compliment, right? Well, in my world it was quite the opposite, to hear 'you are turning out like your mother' meant I had done something terribly wrong...those words still send shooting pains to my stomach. So you can imagine that when I found out I was pregnant, out of wedlock, I anticipated those words rolling off the lips of my father. To my shock he didn't even mention it, in fact he didn't have much to say at all. Over the course of my pregnancy my father and step-mother seemed… [more]

Others’ Thoughts on Forgiving Your Own Parents

August 7th, 2007
Categories: Forgiveness

The White Tulip Means Forgiveness As promised in yesterday's post, I had a recent discussion with some other mothers, during which the fact that we're all in different relationships with our parents due to circumstance and personality was really evident. The issues of adoption and forgiveness run deep. The parent-child dynamic is a complex one without complications caused by grief and loss. I asked these mothers how they forgave their parents. The answers, as usual, varied. Some haven't yet forgiven and don't expect to do so in the future, simply putting aside their own feelings in hopes of having any relationship with their family. Some have simply tossed the relationship into the round file with no hope of fishing it out. Some were… [more]

Forgiving Your Own Parents

August 6th, 2007
Categories: Forgiveness

Mother and Child I've often wondered why forgiving our own parents can be one of the hardest steps a birth parent has to make on their healing journey. For me, personally, it was a long process. Relationships between child and parent have been destroyed, never to be repaired, because of adoption. Why? What is at the core of this inability or unwillingness to forgive? I think the fact that these people are our parents is what lies at the core. As children, we expect our parents to protect us from harm, be it emotional or physical. They are our guardians, our heroes. When we are faced with an unplanned pregnancy, often times our biggest and first adult issue, we still feel that need to be protected… [more]