Thank You

May 27th, 2010
Categories: Current News

Thank YouI have been writing on the birth parent blog here at AdoptionBlogs since October 2006. In that time I have written about many issues facing birth parents, adoptive parents, adoptees and expectant parents considering relinquishment. More over, during that time I have fought my way through therapy, had another son, started and finished other jobs, built a name for myself, failed, succeeded, dyed my hair, pierced my nose (a few times), endured a few speed bumps and road blocks in our open adoption relationship, gained and lost a bunch of weight and generally lived life. I have not always been perfect but, really, I have done the best that I could in all of those situations. And now it's time for me… [more]

Weighing In on the Jillian Michaels’ Drama

April 27th, 2010
Categories: Articles, Current News

Fat exclamation mark made from jigsaw puzzle piecesI had the initial strong reaction to Jillian Michaels' comments about wanting to rescue a child via adoption. I had no issue with her desire to avoid pregnancy (though I can understand why some struggling with fertility issues balked at what came across as a casual remark but, as we later found out, wasn't casual at all). My issue was with her word rescue and the implication that all children who are adopted needed saving by their superior adoptive parents. The truth is that words have come and gone in adoption over the years. What was once acceptable is no longer tolerated when it comes to how we describe certain aspects or people in adoption… [more]

Newsweek Gets it Wrong

March 30th, 2010
Categories: Articles, Current News

NewsweekThe article entitled More on International Adoption: Why U.S. Parents Go Abroad published in Newsweek earlier this month has had me thinking for awhile. I am a firm believer that every adoptive parent (and expectant mother considering placement, for that matter) needs to make the decision that is right for them. Not every parent is cut out to adopt from foster care. Not every adoptive parent can handle the wait and red tape to adopt internationally. Not every parent is able to handle the intricacies of an open adoption. Basically, the article preyed upon the fears that area already so prevalent in the adoption world. Near the end of the article, the author throws the Big Fear out there and all… [more]

Would You Give Your Child Stem Cells?

January 8th, 2010
Categories: Articles, Current News

HospitalI'd move mountains for my children, any of them. I would give my life for my children, any of them. These statements include the Munchkin, the daughter I placed for adoption, as well as my two parented sons. While I may not be actively parenting my firstborn, I feel the same way about her well-being as I do about that of the children living under my roof. That's why an article out of York, PA hits me close to my heart. An adoptee needs a bone marrow transplant (or, rather, stem cells). She has aplastic anemia. The transplant could cure her. Without it, she could die. If you know anything about bone marrow or stem cells, the donor and the recipient have… [more]

An Overwhelming Gift

November 29th, 2008
Categories: Articles, Current News

My heart felt warm and fuzzy when I read the title of this article: Meeting Birth Mother Is 'Overwhelming Gift' How often are birth parents (not expectant parents or adoptees) referred to as an overwhelming gift, especially in the media? It's pretty rare, just to let you know. The article made me cry. I know I'm emotional as it is but it's just too darn rare to see a beautiful story like this anywhere in the media and I felt so grateful that not only had the two shared it but that the newspaper had decided to run with it. More over, the adult adoptee in the reunion brought up her extended family which does include four sisters. "It's an overwhelming gift," Bush said of her extended family, "and… [more]

About Birth Parents in Barbados

September 27th, 2008

Have you been enjoying our impromptu look at birth parents and adoption issues around the world? Me too! It really wasn't my intention for a series of posts this week but other countries are just putting out a bunch of information and I'm gobbling it up! Today I learned a bit about birth parents in Barbados from a piece in The Nation Newspaper. What I found most interesting was the age of birth parents in that country. While the Evan B Donaldson Adoption Institute study on birthparents taught us that American birth parents don't frequently fit the stereotype of the teen mother, I was still a bit shocked to read about the average age of Barbados' birth parents. Women over 30 top the numbers of those who… [more]

News Out of Sydney We Should All Read

September 27th, 2008

Australia is a beautiful place, don't you think? Beyond the beauty of the land, I'm always impressed with the way this country handles adoption issues. In an article dated yesterday, I could hardly contain my glee for the members of the triad living down under. Why? Let's jump right to the meat of the proposals being discussed (and the one that makes me most happy). Under the proposed scheme adoptive parents will automatically receive a child's original and amended birth certificates and other prescribed information, such as adoption orders. A child under 18 will be able to gain access to the information with the adoptive parents' consent. Say what? The original, unamended birth certificate? When? At birth? Hurrah! And letting a child gain access to information if… [more]

Like The English American but Irish and Backwards

September 25th, 2008

I loved the novel The English American (which I reviewed here). But I love this article even more. Why? I always prefer real life to novels. And this article is such a feel-good but honest adoption piece that I don't even know how it made it to print. Usually the news is so filled with gloom and doom and we never hear good news. It's another article coming out of Ireland. I learned a few historical adoption things from this article that I didn't previously know. Between 1940 and 1970, over two thousand Irish babies were adopted by American families. They refer to this group as Ireland's "lost generation." Like in America, these children were born to young mothers in families that were most… [more]

Another Father in Limbo

September 22nd, 2008

I wish stories like this one didn't exist. But with unethical agencies and attorneys still free to do what they want without fear of consequence, fathers are going to continue to lose their children. In short, Kareem Williams' daughter was placed for adoption without his consent. He has been fighting for her for four years. She has been living with the "adoptive family" that was chosen for her by the birth mother's family. Looking at the few details provided about this case, it is not hard to see what reform is needed in today's adoption industry. 1. The father's consent was not collected which is what has lead to this lengthy court battle. 2. The birth mother agreed to a closed adoption because she was not… [more]

Bargaining Chip? What?

September 15th, 2008

I know I've been harping (yes, I chose that word on purpose) on language as of late. The written word, of course, is even more adept at lingering as is the point of written word. And that's why I have a problem with this article. The article is talking about the "shortage of infants." (Of note that the article does mention the number of waiting children languishing in our foster care system but says, and I quote, "few can compete with the appeal of a just born bundle." That quote is juxtaposed with a picture of this particular family standing in an empty nursery, looking very forlorn.) We hear about the plight of the long waiting lists. We see birth mother used in the wrong way… [more]