Family and Friends

December 26th, 2011

friendsI spent last night playing various board games--Taboo, Scattergories, and a few others. It was fun, and despite plans of a movie falling through, it has been a decent holiday. The feelings of yesterday seemed to have their place, and the sorrow and grief that threatened to encompass me are sitting at my side like a faithful dog. I am choosing to allow them to be expressed; allowing myself to feel what I traditionally hid from. It's not that I didn't deal with them, I just wasn't willing to incorporate them into my life. Finding joy in the small things, like spending time with family and friends, is healing and therapeutic. It's funny how adoption changes things; how it makes simple things a touch more difficult… [more]

It {REALLY} is Okay to Slow Down

July 29th, 2011

tortoiseI believe we are all guilty of rushing. Whether it be in the morning to work, at your job trying to accomplish all your tasks, at home with your spouse and children. Do we even know how to operate any other way? I am overly guilty of this and happen to see the repercussions of it daily. I tend to overlook the details sometimes because I am just trying to swiftly accomplish what is at hand and move on to the next ~ oh and of course juggle more than one thing. Last night is a prime example (my husband is sure to chuckle that I am using this). My boys have spent the week at football camp. This is our first experience putting the children… [more]

Giving Birth to New Life: Part 2

July 28th, 2011

Olson FamilyWe have all heard the words before 'you are just like your mother' or 'you are your father's son'. When you hear those words said it is usually meant to be a compliment, right? Well, in my world it was quite the opposite, to hear 'you are turning out like your mother' meant I had done something terribly wrong...those words still send shooting pains to my stomach. So you can imagine that when I found out I was pregnant, out of wedlock, I anticipated those words rolling off the lips of my father. To my shock he didn't even mention it, in fact he didn't have much to say at all. Over the course of my pregnancy my father and step-mother seemed… [more]

Lessons Learned Over New Year’s Eve Dinner

December 31st, 2006

My Mother and I met for a leisurely dinner at a half-way point between our homes. Both without husbands (both working) or children (brother at party, son at MIL's), we figured we'd indulge in our last chance to eat massive amounts of fattening food before the new year and new diets begin. As usual, our discussion turned to adoption. I'm left unsure of what to think or feel. For the first time, ever, my Mother and I openly talked about the time before and during Munchkin's placement. It wasn't a good time for our family. While my Mother and I possess similar personality traits, we communicate in vastly different ways. She yells. When I hear yelling, I emotionally shut down; I don't listen and I don't talk. I hear absolutely nothing… [more]

“The Stork is Dead” – Part 1

September 5th, 2006
Categories: Family Reaction

I have become interested in the advice that teens are given in regards to a crisis pregnancy. I have concerns that much of it is very biased and does not entirely realistically portray all options. I have nosed around and found a few older books on the subject of unplanned teen pregnancies. “The Stork is Dead” was published in 1968 and written by Dr. Charlie Shedd who was a protestant minister. It says on the cover of this book, "Over a Quarter-Million in Print". The format of the book was based on questions from teens to which Dr. Shedd responded. Most of his responses seemed innocuous enough, and indeed fairly reasonable. Much of his advice seemed quite progressive to me… [more]