While everyone is still bickering over who is a better parent and what needs to be proven in order to become a parent, I'm sitting here wondering why I have been denied that joy twice in my life. The sting of the question hits harder today, the day that would have been our Rose Angel's due date. I have no answers. I have many questions. I feel very alone, very angry and very sad all at the same time.

I have no doubt that... more

As a birthmother, I never expected to experience any issues with my reproductive organs. After all, I got pregnant unexpectedly with the Munchkin. People assume, all too often, that birthmothers just pop out kids left and right. I was told, more than once, by women experiencing the pain associated with today's remembrance, that I would never know what it was like to experience the loss of a child.

If only those cruel words were right.

We didn't know that we were pregnant. I started experiencing cramps and bleeding... more

Last month, the House of Representatives passed a Resolution that October 15th is now recognized as Pregnancy and Infant Loss Remembrance Day. If you've experienced a miscarriage, like I have, or the loss of your new infant, you probably don't need a day to sit and remember. Do you? For me, personally, our lost baby pops into my mind at random bits of time, surprising me with her presence. Yet I am happy, if that's the right word, that the Resolution passed.

Too often, those who... more