I have always driven home the fact that 100% honesty, no matter what the cost, is needed in adoption. This goes for pre-placement matching and post-placement relationships. This story out of Nebraska proves the reasons why.

In short, an adoptive family was on a waiting list for two years when they were finally matched with an expectant mother. The expectant mother, like every other expectant mother considering placement, had a list of things that she wanted in a family for her child. One... more

This is not the kind of news you like to read over your lunch break. In fact, it's the kind of news that you don't really like to read, hear or acknowledge. Ever. But it's sad and true.

A ten year old girl delivered a healthy baby this past November. The father was just recently found to be her mother's boyfriend. The case has the Ohio Jobs and Family Services chasing their tails to figure out what to do. This quote is interesting:

"Unfortunately,... more

Sometimes adoption sneaks into my everyday life and slaps me in the face. I just happened to lean over my Husband's shoulder to get a glimpse at the engagements in yesterday's local newspaper. We don't subscribe to the newspaper, mind you. My Husband purchased it just to have the big fire article on the front as a keepsake. Imagine my surprise when I saw this headline, all big and bold on the page I was just merely glimpsing at:

Honoring two moms: Bride fashions a new gown from those worn by her adoptive, birth mothers

He... more

Everyone has an opinion on Jamie Lynn Spears' pregnancy. I do. You do. Even if you say you don't, choosing not to have an opinion is actually an opinion. Some people are shocked to the idea that, gasp, sixteen year old girls can get pregnant. Some people are angry that a girl that was (previously) a role model for teens and tweens got herself in this pickle. Some people are praising her for her "pro-life decision." Ironically, people in that same grouping are taking a different view and chastising her for getting pregnant in the first place.

I've talked... more

In October, I wrote about an expectant mother in the UK who was fighting with Social Services to keep her unborn child. Due to a past history of self-harm and an eating disorder, they were planning to take her child from her shortly after birth. As we learned in the comments, the mental health issues were a result of physical and sexual abuse and, according to her... more

My mind is spinning a bit. I'm kind of angry, annoyed and sad. And angry, in case I forgot to mention it. Why? In a news story out of the UK, an expectant mother might lose her baby. Just in case she hurts it. She hasn't done anything during the pregnancy to cause them to think that she would hurt her own child. But, still, they want to take her baby away within thirty minutes of the little girl's birth.

You heard me. Thirty minutes. Thirty... more

Again, I'm glad that I'm not famous. I make parenting mistakes. Sometimes I run to the store with my hair an absolute mess. Sometimes my son has a booger hanging out of his nose. But I'm not featured on television shows and magazines. I get a few wayward looks from judgmental people on my lesser days but they're soon forgotten. I wonder if it's as easy for celebrities to forget when they're parenting skills are not only questioned but parodied and mocked.

I'll admit, I did giggle at this parody article.... more

My brain hurts this morning. We talk about the advances that have been made in thought and process. We talk about the continuous changes that we want to make within the adoption system so that things are done in an ethical manner that protects the rights of all involved. We don't want women who can parent their child(ren) to be unnecessarily separated. And then some moron like this comes and takes a tragic case and turns it into a platform for mothers to place their babies.

The film-critic turned... more

This quote really takes it to the heart of the matter:

"Isn't it in the best interest of a developed society -- any society that loves its children -- to support them in whatever way possible?" - Dr. Richard Boas

My heart leapt into my throat this morning as I read the article about an adoptive father whose child came to him for Korea and his new mission. They adopted their child... more

Another adoption article in the news has made me feel disheartened, discouraged and generally displeased. The article, out of the Detroit Metro, gives an update to a story that they had previously printed. In the first article, they talked about an adoptive family who was using MySpace to try and locate a birth mother/child. I was bothered but didn't write about it on this site. However, the update needs mentioning for all of the wrong included within... more