Thank You for Not Forgetting Us made me cry. This article which was published in originally in Adoption Week E-magazine is a heartfelt article by an adoptee name J.R.

Thank you to all the beautiful women who, out of love and grief and confusion, seek a better life for their offspring. Thank you for not forgetting us, the children you gave up. It makes a difference.

J.R.... more

Many adopted children or adults do not equate their being relinquished to any flaws in them.

Sadly, however, some adoptees do believe that there must have been something wrong with them for their birth parents to have relinquished them. I have a few adoptees express this thought.

Feelings are not always based on facts. We have little control over what we feel. However, feeling abandoned and flawed is not uncommon with adoptees. When birth parents go on to parent other children, an adoptee might be even more inclined to believe the worst.... more

My husband mentioned the other day what a unique adoption story Nicole Richie has and suggested it as a blog topic. We saw an interview with Lionel Ritchie on television some time ago, and he discussed his daughter’s adoption.

My dear husband was blown away at the whole story about why Nicole came to be adopted by the Richies. I was astounded that Lionel Ritchie would share a story that would cast him in such a negative light. Maybe he did not realize how bad it would sound. Another possibility is that he did not care, and/or was just being honest. Nevertheless, it... more

Adult Adoptee Health Survey

Are you a female adoptee at least 40 years of age? If so, you're invited to participate in an important research study about how adopted persons take care of their health.

A perfect opportunity for adoptees to speak out is through this survey. It is being conducted by an adult adoptee working on her doctoral degree in the College of Public Health at The University of Georgia.

The unspoken "proper" behavior for... more

Heard the expression, seeing red? Sometimes that is my reaction when I hear complaints about adoptees who are negative or angry. Some adoptive parents get all squirmy and uncomfortable when adoptees say anything negative about adoption. They may consider it a person affront.

Adoptees are not supposed to ever be unhappy, have issues or acknowledge that adoption is on their minds too often. Some adoptive parents just do not want to hear anything but "happy" talk from adoptees.

Even when adoptees say they that they have had issues, but resolved them, that... more

As much as I talk about the effects of adoption on mothers who relinquish children to adoption, I am more concerned about how adoption affects children. People expect that because I am a birth mom that I care more about how adoption affects birth parents. That is not the case.

If a woman is not motivated to parent or cannot successfully do so because she has drug, alcohol or abuse issues, she will probably not make a great parent. Unless a family member can raise the child of a woman unable to parent, adoption may be the best solution. When I truly... more

This seems to fit right in with my current theme of learning things, online, from people who were adopted at some point in their life. I was just reading my morning news blurbs.

We don't often hear from (or listen to?) teenagers. You have to be eighteen to post on the forums due to legal considerations. It's great to learn from adults who have been through those tumultuous teenage years and come out on the other side, hopefully, wiser. I personally don't frequent any sites specifically... more

I've been talking about meeting various members of the triad via online mediums. However, as I move in to talk about the valuable resource that adoptees have been in my life, I need to state a small difference. It is true that I did not know any other Mothers who had placed a child prior to coming to the internet after Munchkin's placement. It is true that while I knew parents who had adopted children as I grew up, none of these people were my own personal friends. They were Mom... more