An expectant mother recently posted on the forums. She's considering relinquishment. Someone advised her to talk to "middle aged" "birth mothers" as they will have the best advice regarding placement.

I kind of have a problem with that advice.

Not that I don't love my "middle aged" "birth mother" friends. In fact, I've learned a lot from them about various issues connected to adoption. Beyond that, they've taught me a lot about healing, personal responsibility... more

I write an awful lot about my story both here and, well, everywhere. I'm used to telling my story. Not only do I think it could provide useful for other families, mothers and the general public but it is cathartic. Sometimes writing everything "out" of my head is the only thing that gives my heart some peace. We all need peace, let me tell you, if only for a few moments.

And that's why I am encouraging my birth mother readers to share their stories.

No, not here. Origins USA is "seeking... more

I find it hard to deal with expectant mothers considering placement. I don't mean that to sound rude, callous or judgmental. I just remember, too vividly, being in their very shoes. I remember the emotions, the overwhelming decisions, the judgments and the fear. I also remember my stubborn streak; a mile wide and a mile deep, no one could get past the raging waters of my stubbornness. I see the same things mirrored all too often in mothers who are considering placement. It's disheartening.

I've decided I need to get over myself. I encourage you, as... more