Sometimes facts are facts. Yet I can't get past the sensational title on the top browser bar of this article: "A Woman who was dumped as a newborn has told of her decision to give up her own baby for adoption." Beyond using the personally annoying term of "give up," dumped just screams at me. Of course, in Katie's story, she was abandoned in a gym bag by her... more

Accompanying the LA Times two part article was a smaller article that not many (if any yet) have touched on regarding openness and adoptee loss. As a birth mother, I want to know about issues that adoptees have, will or can experience. When the idea of openness was sold to me, no one talked about adoptee's losses. The truth remains:... more

While the LA Times article did cover the birth mother perspective in their two part series, it is rare to see a story about a first mother in the mainstream media. Magazines, even ones that feature mothering issues, rarely feature stories on birth parents. We're still considered less than or taboo by the glossy-paged experts in the grocery store checkout line. Well, perhaps we can make a singular change to that rule.

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It's a long read. It's not an easy read. It's a necessary read. Parts One and Two of an open adoption story were featured in the LA Times yesterday and today. All too frequently, adoptive and birth parents who are participating in open adoptions hear, "Well, we'll have to wait until the kids are older to hear what they say."... more

Granted, I haven't read the book just yet though I'm ordering it as I type. Making Room in Our Hearts: Keeping Family Ties through Open Adoption by Micky Duxbury sounds like something that should be handed out to all parties agreeing to any level of openness. I have seen the book before during my searches on the topic of open adoption but a recent... more

Having worked in my educated field for a few years, I know that titles of articles or news stories aren't always spot on. Sometimes they miss the mark slightly because they pick up on one idea within the story and run with it instead of stating an overview of the entire piece. So, I tried to keep that in mind when I saw the title of this article as I read my e-mail this morning:

Open adoptions ease pain for birth moms

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