A new first mother posted on the forums about her recurring nightmares. She asked if other birth mothers had experienced the same thing. The overwhelming response? A resounding, "Been there, done that!"

Some brief research on nightmares explains why so many birth parents chimed in with similar stories to share. Wikipedia defines a nightmare as such:

The current usage of the term nightmare refers... more

Over on the forums in a section dedicated to discussion about raising boys, a member posed a question asking others about their "fantasy families." The question revolved around whether or not your current family makeup was how you envisioned it when you were a youngster and included things like marriage, housing arrangements and children.

To be blunt, in my wildest dreams, I never imagined myself as a birth mother. To be frank, it's not what I... more

A friend of mine with a locked online journal (meaning, I can't link to the post) recently had a dream about adoption. I don't often dream about adoption. However, I don't usually dream about the things that are currently going on in my life; I dream about past issues that have (or sometimes have not) been resolved, high school and things in the future. (Also tornadoes.)

This friend of mine is an everyday mother to a son born around the same time as our Nicholas. To paraphrase her dream, she basically dreamt that she replied to an... more

Browsing in a local bookstore recently, I came across a small book by country singer, Lee Ann Womack called, "I hope you dance." This little gem of a book is based on her song of the same name. Listen here. It is slow loading, but worth it! Listening to the words of this song make me think of all that I wanted for my son Chris.

Some people seem so blasé about life, not truly enjoying it or being awed by nature and all the miraculous offerings. I hoped that the son that I relinquished would enjoy and... more

Jenna spoke recently of dreams and mentioned that many birth moms dream of the children they placed for adoption. Five years before my son found me, cracks appeared in my denial armor. Nightmares plagued me and yet, I made no connection to the loss of my son.

Many nights I woke up sobbing and my husband wondered what was troubling me to wake up so distraught. The nightmare was always the same. To probe its meaning would have meant dropping the denial mode. I was not quite ready. To attach meanings to dreams or nightmares is not something I... more

Since writing the previous post about how birth parents may dream of their birth children, I've had a song running through my head. Just the chorus, really, so I decided to open my iTunes and give the song a complete listen.

"Sleep to Dream Her" is a song by Dave Matthews Band, released on their sometimes... more

I recently posed a question on the forums asking birth parents if they dream about their placed child. The response was a resounding, "Yes!" The question was prompted from a dream I had early last week regarding adoption in general. I know that my adoption related dreams intensified after Nick's birth. As some birth mothers shared their dreams with me, I saw a consistent theme: loss.

It's no secret that, for birth parents,... more