In Adoption should always be the last resort, says UNICEF rep there is talk of passing the Hague convention.

UNCIEF believes that families needing support to care for their children should receive it, and that alternative means of caring for a child should only be considered when, despite this assistance, a child’s family is unavailable, unable or unwilling to care for her or him.

Although I understand that my blogging friend Sandra is not keen on... more

This post is one that I wrote many months ago and did not publish. I struggled with whether to post it or not. As I reread it, I realized that many of the items on here were what many of us expected from adoption. We have discovered that adoption did not play out in our lives as we expected that it would.

Adoption would always be a perfect solution:

 If babies were blank slates that you could mold and shape into a an exact replica of yourself or whatever you wanted;

 If most mothers who gave their babies to others... more

Most of us grew up in two parent families or wished that we did. Some young unmarried women choose adoption for their child because they desperately want for their child what they did not have - a father figure. In my era, families on television represented the ideal, and mostly consisted of a dad, mom and two or three children. A traditional two-parent family is still revered in many circles.

Although non-traditional families are more common, many people cling to the belief that a child needs both a father and a mother. This reverence for a two-parent... more

When I see a headline like Center Helps Young Moms from The Daily-Record.com, I get excited and usually read the article. This Ohio center sounds as though it could be helpful to young moms in so many ways. This center has a "Learn While You Earn" program. Young women learn about mothering in exchange for credits to buy items that young moms need.

Items that young moms can buy with their "baby bucks" as they are called, include... more

Many adoptees, and sometimes others, feel a need to thank birth mothers for "choosing life." Personally, I wince when I hear an adoptee or anyone mention that they want to thank a birth mother. Unless you know that a birth/first mother considered abortion, you are making a huge assumption to suggest that she did.

For some reason, it seems to be a common assumption that birth mothers choose only between abortion and adoption. In reality, many birth mothers never consider abortion. Instead they choose between parenting and adoption.

Abortion... more

In my previous article about this case, I neglected to include a great post from Deb. Her post can fill in more of the details of this story. It revolves around a young teen mother who received counseling and adoption advice from her high school guidance counselor. There are a few very significant points about this case that I did not address in my previous post that... more

Remember the incident in Utah a few months ago which involved young three pregnant teens? The young women tied up the director of the “home,” whacked her with a pan and then fled. There was some speculation that the young women wanted to keep their babies, and fled in part for that reason.

This article catches us up on the latest developments in the panwhacking case. "Pan-whacking,"... more

One of my favorite first/birth mom bloggers has done a beautiful job of relating this story. Her rendition of this sad tale says it well. This story as yet has not received widespread coverage, but I hope that it eventually will. It is a story that needs to be told. In a nutshell, a 17 year old mother was counseled by a high school guidance counselor... more

What in the world? This new idea makes me seriously wonder at the direction our society seems to be heading. Although this article comes to us from Germany, the safe haven frenzy has hit the U.S. as well. Think we would never consider such a thing as a baby box? Think again, read this article in an Ohio newspaper. Seems... more

There are many ways that you can handle stupid remarks. One of the best ways is to laugh them off when possible. Challenge them when the mood strikes you, ignore them or do whatever you need to do to let them not bother you too much.

These remarks fall into many categories. They may be insensitive, rude, thoughtless or just plain stupid. Another possibility is that you are asking a question that is none of your business.

Adoptive Moms

1) Which ones are yours? (To an adoptive mom with biological and adopted children.)... more